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Editorial: Who's Playing Who?

Okay, first things first- if the majority of my readers really want me to stop posting these little personal updates on the weekends, I'll certainly stop. The only reason I do it in the first place is because my virtua-diary got a gigantic response late last year, but I know things can get old. I always focus on gaming for my Week in Review, but really, if you're all sick of my mini-dramas, I'll just stop. I'm no attention whore (never have been; hate the idea), and I don't mind letting you guys into my life here and there, but I know some people may get bored. So just let me know.

Now, moving on. You can read previous features over the past few weeks to get up to speed but as a quick refresher, we're dealing with Ms. Amy and Ms. Courtney (no, not their real names, although the first letter of each is correct); both of whom seem to have struck a friendly deal that they each "get a shot" at me, and I'm allowed to select which one gets the prize. ...I try to make this sound optimistic and all bad-ass and stuff, but those who may be familiar with the situation know just how precarious it really is. Ms. Courtney was the first who showed interest, then Ms. Amy popped into the picture and the two made this completely abnormal and suspicious deal. I know everyone wants to know what they look like, but really, the best I can do is to have you picture pretty, professional ladies in their late '20s; all kinda "Sex and the City"-like. One's a broker; the other is an insurance executive (I live in CT, after all). Both have similar body types (slender, average height, etc.), but Ms. Courtney is blonde and Ms. Amy has auburn hair.

Now, just to get this out there- I've already slept with Ms. Amy (yeah, that's right...I told you I'd write it for everyone to see, "Ms. Amy!"), which I figured would be the end of the deal. I figured that despite their supposed "deal," Ms. Courtney would just snap and that'd be it. No. Actually, she wanted effing details. Then she just wanted to make sure she still "had a chance," and once again confirmed a date for the middle of this past week. I talked to Arnold and we both admit to being confused, although he's insistent on bringing up the "threesome" possibility. I refuse to go with that, but we do agree that at this point, I'm little more than a marionette and there's really no way to escape the eventual talons. However, I didn't get to see Ms. Courtney this week because I had a root canal that day and I really wasn't in the mood to do...well, anything. But she remains insistent. And now that I postponed that, both want to meet me for drinks at Ultra 88 (club at Mohegan Sun) at 11:00 p.m. tomorrow night. That's right, chickadees; this sh** is public now. If you try to kidnap me and toss me into a dungeon of torture somewhere, I gots peeps backin' me up.

...uh...you guys are backing me up, right? Anyway, I'm thinking I should just stop the insanity and tell Ms. Courtney that although every man likes the idea of sleeping with two hot chicks without either getting pissed, the risk is too great. Ms. Amy is great and we had fun. So...go with Ms. Amy? Yes? Or is it wrong, as Ms. Courtney initially asked for my number in the first place?

Scary sh**.

5/15/2009 Ben Dutka

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Friday, May 15, 2009 @ 9:08:40 PM
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And just so people realize I DO have some sensitivity, I turn your attention to an excerpt from Thomas Mann's "The Magic Mountain," winner of the Nobel Prize for literature in 1927. It's one of my favorites:

"To try to make a clear-cut distinction between the passionate and the soulful - that would, no doubt, be analytical. The subject is so equivocal, the limits so fluctuating. We make bold to laugh at the idea. Is it not well done that our language has but one word for all kinds of love, from the holiest to the most lustfully fleshly? All ambiguity is therein resolved: love cannot but be physical, at its furthest stretch of holiness; it cannot be impious, in its utterest fleshliness. It is always itself, as the height of shrewd 'geniality' as in the depth of passion; it is organic sympathy, the touching sense-embrace of that which is doomed to decay. In the most raging as in the most reverent passion, there must be 'caritas.' The meaning of the word varies? In God's name, then, let it vary."

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iPwn_3G
Friday, May 15, 2009 @ 10:15:39 PM

Very touching, but anyways- if neither one really cares then just go with your favorite-Ms. Amy? Btw, I might try to kidnap you and take your girl, lol.

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Highlander
Friday, May 15, 2009 @ 11:46:01 PM

Ben,

Man, Two things to say.

1) Hang on and enjoy the ride (pun NOT intended)!

2) Allow things to unfold as they do, and don't try to shape things, women have a way of avoiding our attempts to shape anything. Which of course brings us back to 1)

;-)

Lucky devil!

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fatelementality
Sunday, May 17, 2009 @ 11:55:17 AM

Hey Ben. Not too good with women so didn't have much to say on this matter. Just wanted to bring your comments to 100.

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fatelementality
Sunday, May 17, 2009 @ 11:55:48 AM

So there ya go. Well, go for it I guess. I would.

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SerichA
Friday, May 15, 2009 @ 10:14:29 PM
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It's not clear enough when we don't know them. It's purely your decision, I would say.

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tes37
Friday, May 15, 2009 @ 10:20:05 PM
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Nice photo ...... is this a game?

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tes37
Friday, May 15, 2009 @ 10:25:48 PM

Sorry, I posted before reading

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th0mas21
Friday, May 15, 2009 @ 10:24:13 PM
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if you all stop out to OH sometime, let me know THEN i will have your back :) anyways i always enjoy keeping up with this now and then, and for those that dont, they dont have to read it. honestly i stick with one girl while dating or whatever you call it... and sleeping with girl A falls under the or whatever category. but thats just me, and everyone has their own opinions, as we shall soon see.... comments, comments, comments...

good luck in dangerous waters!

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SPS3
Friday, May 15, 2009 @ 10:31:22 PM
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Refuse a threesome?! Give em both the prize...bang the hell out of both like its nobodies secret! Oh yeah,...I LOVE the image! Double Lollipop Twins!!! Yummy!

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WorldEndsWithMe
Friday, May 15, 2009 @ 10:43:13 PM
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We got your back, but well you seem like a reasonable guy and even though I hate it to death: I am too. As much as my good friend in my pants tries to get me to do scandalous things I always find myself doing the right thing anyway. The right thing here is, despite anything that happened before, to go exclusively with the woman you see any kind of future with. It doesn't have to be marriage, but just a future. If it's neither, then just pick the one that best suits your type, or pick niether.

On a sidenote: I've never heard of this kind of "deal" and it worries me, usually a girl gets dibs, just like we get dibs and then everyone has to back off. Something here is twisted and all you can do is play it like a game: try to survive.

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Friday, May 15, 2009 @ 11:00:57 PM

That crappy movie with Ice T, "Surviving The Game" was on TV earlier today.

...that was a more agreeable situation.

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EddPm6
Friday, May 15, 2009 @ 10:43:43 PM
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Wow this is pickle. If it was me i would do it like this. Which one makes you smile when you see her ( whether really smile or just in your head) and which one makes you think " oh s**t oh s**t oh s**t!"

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rowdy
Friday, May 15, 2009 @ 10:54:35 PM
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Did you just refer to yourself as "the prize"?

Note to self: the prize could be a very cool new nickname.

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GuernicaReborn
Friday, May 15, 2009 @ 11:19:54 PM

Having two girls fighting for the opportunity to date you definitely makes you the prize.

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sunspider13
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 12:04:11 AM

Insert clever Highlander reference here.

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robinhood2010
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 6:44:45 AM

THERE CAN BE ONLY ONE!

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Reccaman18
Friday, May 15, 2009 @ 11:03:37 PM
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Of course we have your back. Figuratively speaking, that is ;)

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Scarecrow
Friday, May 15, 2009 @ 11:03:48 PM
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We got your back, babes can be a lot of trouble :X

You know, I'm actually trying to decide which babe to go far at the moment too...No neither knows I like 'em, but both hint at liking me. One is super hot....and has a way of mesmerizing me. The other one is really cool and friendly, but not sure she can be more than a friend...

The problem is that the "hotter" one would take more maintenance and more pressure to "keep happy" than the "simpler" one. It's weird though, generally I'd go for the friendlier one...but I don't know what's wrong with me.

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On your story bit:
Man it's pure win, I don't know why, but unlike most I really like this situation or the drama of it. These two girls are wild/interesting. If it was me I don't know...I might "try out" both lol. But yeah, just be careful man, these two are "friends"......

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Scarecrow
Friday, May 15, 2009 @ 11:04:18 PM
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By the way, that image is godly!

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Robochic
Friday, May 15, 2009 @ 11:12:33 PM
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Hmm this is a very very strange situation, but i agree with world which one do u see any kinda of future with. BTW i look forward to this every weekend :) i'm a stay at home mom trust me i don't get out much, and my conversations are between me and a 5 month old .

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Xbox_Killer
Friday, May 15, 2009 @ 11:28:01 PM

I agree. I look forward to these also, can't wait for the next one.

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Xbox_Killer
Friday, May 15, 2009 @ 11:22:49 PM
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Pick whatever one you like the best, If it's not Ms. Courtney its her fault for hooking you both up in the first place. You could also just sleep with them both then pick whatever one that's better in the sack. who knows they might of planned this from the beginning so they could get in a threesome. Just a little heads up the sex and the City chicks are kinda ugly.

Also, I don't mind if you post stuff like this it's a nice little bonus. And I got your back if/when the kidnap you, unless its like a sex dungeon and you don't wont to be found.

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WorldEndsWithMe
Friday, May 15, 2009 @ 11:27:06 PM
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Check this out: I take my dog to this vet's office regularly right, and the vet must be a pervy cuz ALL his vet techs are cute young girls. And they all seem to act strangely around me and I'm trying to decide which one to go for. All different types and I know they all talk like hens in a henhouse to each other but I very much need to make a decision of which one to hit on because if I do it to all of em (besides the basic flirting I always do) they will probably all just forget about me as a sleaze.

Theres shy-not-as-hot-but-very cute girl, theres young-inexperienced-willing-to-please girl, tall-popular-girl, and athletic-perky-all around sexy girl. That's my pickle, really grinds my gears that I have exactly 1 shot at this.

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Scarecrow
Friday, May 15, 2009 @ 11:36:08 PM

Dude....

Ya'lls copy-cats...
I feel your pain....same situation with me at school...

Two cute babes....one I'm more "attracted" to. The other one is more honest and smiles more...

Dammit dammit dammit
The sad thing is the one shot crap....the other one will really throw me under the bus if she sees me with the other one....(I try to hide from one or the other when talking to one lol)

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 1:01:03 AM

Who says you have only one shot?

Maybe you should ask out the one who won't blab to the rest of the staff, thereby giving you another chance. ;)

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WorldEndsWithMe
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 1:17:20 AM

I guess it just seems like a 1 shot deal, I mean if I get shot down and then move down the list, I won't come off too good, haha. But I think I'll go for the shy girl, she seems like a nervous wreck around me and for god knows what reason I like it :)

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robinhood2010
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 6:47:38 AM

Shy is always good. Hides a raging sex goddess!

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Alienange
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 8:17:04 AM

Do NOT go for tall-popular-girl.

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THEVERDIN
Friday, May 15, 2009 @ 11:42:31 PM
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@WEWM take the athletic perky all round sexy. She sounds hot to me.

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WorldEndsWithMe
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 1:19:00 AM

she is dude, but I can't read her, I dunno if she's so nice and talkative because I'm a customer or she's just that way or whatever, anyway when I do whatever it is I do maybe I'll post it here under one of Ben's weekly reports :)

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Zapix
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 12:06:16 AM
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haha, I wonder if Ben remembered I too live here in Connecticut...

Good thing I don't have plans!
So, Mohegan Sun tomorrow night?
ahhhahahahahaha! nah, just kidding Ben, I'm not a fan of the casinos; less a fan of huge crowds, and chain smoking old ladies.

Personally, I think you should go with whoever seems the most sane. A persistant girl might seem like she's into you and all, but you gotta remember, women are actually viciously competitive with each other, especially when they both want the same thing... Either for practical reasons or just spite and jealously. Nice, sane, good women are hard to come by, if the "amy" persona is that, go with it.

Remember a situation like this can be delicate. So proceed with caution, and medical insurance! LOL Or hell, get that suit of armor seen in our lottery commercials.

Lastly, I know this perhaps seems silly, but you could let things pan out to a Mass Effect finale. Mrs. Evil Alien Hating Bitch Williams vs Sweet Loving Squidy Head Liara. Course then, you're either left to decide, or suggest a threesome as Arnold has, and watch the evil of the two walk away. Then again, it could pan out and you lose both.

Again... Proceed with caution. Especially with women here in CT... They're cold blooded imo.

btw, nothing wrong with personal life stuff. Some people will read, others won't. Sure, it's a gaming website, but we know who the guy behind the name is because of it.

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Zapix
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 12:23:36 AM

btw... They do know you're a... .... GAMER? right... LOL
Ben: no no, I'm not a gamer, I just um... I write about games, so I'm forced to play them. Yeah, that's it! I don't play games willingly, no no, not me! This bully from high school, Arnold threatens to make me commit seppuku if I don't write about his games!

lolol

had to say it :P

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 1:05:05 AM

Yeah, of course they know. Remember the first feature that started all this; "Gamer Stuns Gal Crowd"? I'm like an exotic or some sh**. Big gamer who doesn't look or act like a gamer (if gamers "act" and "look" a certain way).

So you've never been down to the club at the Sun? Ultra 88 is pretty cool. RIDICULOUSLY hot chicks in there sometimes, but as you say, CT chicks can be ruthless. As for which one seems the most sane...I really have no idea. Both are loopy as far as I'm concerned.

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fluffernutter
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 12:15:10 AM
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I still think they're doing this for the attention and are reading this. C'mon now. I wear a cape and punch my fist sideways to my chest. NNNGH!

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 1:02:29 AM

You know, I never thought about that.

But these two don't need extra attention from a gaming website. LOL

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LegendaryWolfeh
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 12:19:45 AM
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Ms. Courtney

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sunspider13
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 12:32:35 AM
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Ben oh Ben, I feel your pain, nice pic btw.

I shouldn't have been drinking Guinness because it came out of my nose. Damn man you have to have nerves of steel to deal with this soap opera. And I have your back.

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migabyte
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 12:52:58 AM
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I've slept with two chicks at the same time...it's pretty fun.

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artson1966
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 12:55:34 AM
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Ben, I admire your position. Two women interested in you is a brain tease of the century. To answer you question, It comes down to your morales. I believe you already know the answer and have made the right choice. The key to happiness is no drama with the added drama how can you really have fun. When your with the other girl can you honestly say your having a goodtime or are you thinking how the other women is thinking about it. The key topic in your post was wen the other wanted details of your sexual encounter with the other. This in my opinion is either a setup for the 3 some that you tossed out because of moral issues or she is interested in you a a friend. You already chose when you decided to be with Ms Amy. Morality is the answer to this drama.

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 1:01:47 AM

Morality? ...if so, then I'm not sure where to turn. It seems I've flown right past morality into sin and vice; not entirely sure I can backtrack. LOL

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sunspider13
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 1:26:50 AM

I can hear the soundtrack for this whole mess right now...NIN 'Sin' from 'Pretty Hate Machine' lol.

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WorldEndsWithMe
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 1:23:54 AM
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Remember if you do the orgy you'll have to start smoking marlboro reds, grow a mustache, get silk sheets, red furniture, get orgy friends, etc and so forth until you're calling yourself "Benjamin Dukati" or some sh*t!

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sunspider13
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 1:28:11 AM

ROFL stop it! Guinness isn't made to come out of one's nose.

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robinhood2010
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 6:51:33 AM

I dunno World, I'm picturing "Giggity giggity, aaaaaaaaaaaaaalright!"

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 10:19:45 AM

Yeah, I'm no orgy guy. I hate crazy weirdo lighting. LOL

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fluffernutter
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 2:08:40 AM
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I don't think that they feel the "need" for attention but I bet they love attention and this soap opera sounds like it will have a happy ending... or two. :P

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Oyashiro
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 2:39:33 AM
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You are turning into quite the role model for all of us. I say at this point just go with the flow.

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BikerSaint
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 3:08:57 AM
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@Ben, I got your back,
I'll just put the losing gal on the back of my Harley.

BTW, You've gotta take a ride down to the Trump Taj Mahal's Casino in Atlantic City, they're giving away a white 370Z soon.
Just got to sign up for a players card, play the slots or table games for little bit, & then be there that day & time when they're giving it away(Just gave away a Mercedes & a nice Beemer in the last month or so).
If it peaks your interest, let me know & I'll be glad to get all the info/date/time for you.

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 10:20:46 AM

Sorry, I just can't bring myself to gamble. Love the idea of the 370Z, though.

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fluffernutter
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 12:50:24 PM

You can't bring yourself to gamble, eh? Talking to women is always a gamble. ;)

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tes37
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 1:23:31 PM

@ Ben, I don't gamble either. Working hard for something makes it all the more sweeter.

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Wage SLAVES
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 3:30:57 AM
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**Dont stop the stories!**

Well, as I see you as a distant friend, I'd have to say neither. Get what you can out of both but don't commit. Why? You ARE just a marionette in a female tug-o-war. When a winner is announced the trophy is soon forgotten as the taste of victory does fade.


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MadKatBebop
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 3:39:47 AM
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You fuc*ed ms Amy!!! snap your in the sh*t now!!! dose ms Courtney know? is she cool with this? I like Arnold's idea about a threesome!

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SkantDragon
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 4:07:26 AM
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Honestly, I think you're so worried about it all that you're making the whole thing into a much bigger drama than it really is.

Just go with it and see where things lead. Stop over analyzing it. Stop fretting. Stop waiting for everything to explode.

I think you're so afraid that it's going to go bad that you're pretty much going to force it down that path.

From what you've described, you're already making decisions based on fear.

Perhaps you should try being positive about all this. And look at the opportunities you have for what they really are.

It's good fortune if you'll let it be.

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Skatejimmy5
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 5:32:40 AM
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No, please don't stop posting these. I love them, because it makes me relate to the editorial staff on a more human level.

And you really got yourself a pickle, and unfortunately I've never experienced this so I can't help you. But just make sure to let me and everyone else know.

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aaronisbla
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 5:36:49 AM
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nothing wrong with your stories, its not like you post about it every other article. But if it gets serious with one of these girls or another one, you might have to take into consideration of what you have wrote, especially if its a totally different girl.

As long as you protecting the package, i say you are good to go. Still, id kinda hate to have these kinda issues. At least thats what im obligated to say since my wife would kill me. And while im at it, shame on you mr dutka ( had to throw that in there since my wife would kill me otherwise...)

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Alienange
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 8:18:21 AM

lmao

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 10:22:23 AM

Geez...where's that obligatory whip sound? j/k

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www
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 6:36:11 AM
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Guess am a pretty good mind-reader.

I did tell you Ben on the last article that, i did sense your interest in Ms.Amy, putting an Amy-look-a-like pic up was enough evidence.
ADMIT you prefer Ms.Amy, as simple as that.

Am not at your location,i would've been to the club,the club is one of my personal best hangout spots.Am not into restaurants,beach and all that, is all club for me.

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 10:24:44 AM

Well, don't read too much into it. The only reason I chose the pic that looked like Ms. Amy was because I couldn't find one that looked like Ms. Courtney (too many generic blonde pics online). LOL

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robinhood2010
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 7:13:44 AM
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If you are getting on fine with Ms.Amy, then you should tell Ms.Courtney you have made your decision. Although I would still nose around for that elusive menage a trois. Hell, they seem willing to share you...

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PSNclaw18
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 7:49:08 AM
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Dude... not to be an ass or anything, but man the F up!! You don't have to make a decision unless THEY push for it! So until that time comes, go with the flow. What an awesome situation!! lol

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Karosso
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 8:15:53 AM
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Ben "The Prize" Dutka... No sarcasm intended, just due respect.
Mr. Dutka, you have enough commonsense to pull this off I'm sure.
Maybe you should just relax and try to let things happen as they would, its all out of your control for as long as you are in it.
I'm a short drive away from you, in NYC, so if I hear something in the news I will add my efforts to the search LOL.

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KOSMOS111
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 9:31:13 AM
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Ben question do you spend the same amount of time with them?

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 10:23:24 AM

Not at this point. I've only been with Ms. Amy, remember.

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screw_off
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 9:33:34 AM
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Just so ya know, post here and we will all come running to save you, lol. (I know if you were kidnapped then you couldn't post lol)

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Jiggy
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 9:41:23 AM
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I think Ben is past the stage of "letting it fall into place". You've slept with one, but the other still wants a piece of the action...which rarely occurs. I say go out with Ms. C and do your business. After, see what Ms. A thinks about it and how crazy, jealous one or the other gets, then choose the less crazy one. lol

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Qubex
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 10:01:53 AM
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What a nice problem to have Ben :)

Q!

"i am home"

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Skatejimmy5
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 10:07:57 AM
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Also, from now on, I'll be picturing those two gals on the picture there when you talk about Ms. C and Ms. A. ;)

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 10:22:54 AM

Bad idea. They don't look similar. :) Ms. Amy looks a bit like the girl in the last editorial, but that's about it.

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Skatejimmy5
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 12:55:06 PM

Ah, I see. But it's still my imagination. ;)

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 10:28:02 AM
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And for those of you saying I should just "go with the flow," that's what I've BEEN doing. But "going with the flow" is essentially the same as being a marionette; in both cases, you are being pulled at by a force stronger than you. One has strings; one has water. Big diff. ;)

But we'll have to see what happens tonight. I still can't understand why I have to meet BOTH of them for drinks, and why - given what she knows - Ms. Courtney hasn't just decided to opt herself out of the situation. I don't particularly WANT her to, but maybe it'd be a lot easier... I despise being clueless, that's all.

Oh well. At the very least, I want Ms. Amy back for another night. Or Ms. Courtney for the first night. Or WHATEVER. ...'runs away'

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Zapix
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 11:23:07 AM

Again, CT women we're talking about. Seemingly educated ones at that, making them more like pit vipers than rabid dogs. Personally, I see it as, they get you in the middle, both are mooching on you (once they've had enough to drink), they'll let some slanderous comments slip out against the other. Then one will eventually break, it'll be a full blown cat fight (most likely verbal only, unless one is seceretly Xena)... Meanwhile you're stuck in the middle, most likely just to see how they're willing to fight for you, and that one of them is more mature than the other. Least... That's a possibility.

The other is that these two are both bi of some sorts, and using you to get to the other... In which case... Make sure your cellphone can record videos. kthxbai! lol Personally I hated having a bi gf though! Both are loopy though eh... I hope that's a good loopy! :P

And I've only been to Mohegan Sun once. I went up there with some family a few years ago. Spent most of my time in the shopping area, bored to death.

Hopefully tonight proves useful. In my personal experience, women also like guys to know what they want, and be decisive. It seems to me, the Courtney one wants you to want her. I mean, otherwise for her it's all rejection "what'd I do wrong?" For the Amy one, it becomes "why's he hanging around this slut trying to steal my guy?" or so that's how I see it. My own male brain can't begin to fathom what will happen tonight, but part of me wishes I could be a fly on the wall to see!

At that, good luck tonight Ben!
I feel you are going to need it!
Better you than me honestly! Granted, I'm not much a fan of single life at 29, but after the last 3 1yr long relationships I was in, I don't think I can handle any more cheating, abuse, lies, more cheating, and yes... more lies.

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 12:21:20 PM

Oh, the lies and cheating and drama are part of the heady spice that makes up single life. I'm addicted to it. LOL

I really don't think either of these women are bi (although Arnold would want me to believe otherwise). And they are pretty and educated, so they could be more dangerous than normal... But I guess I'll find out something tonight. :)

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fluffernutter
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 12:49:28 PM

All women are bi. You just have to find the way to open the key to tranquility...

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Gone
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 10:31:53 AM
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"If something seems to good to be true, it probably is."

They could make a RPG out of your story.

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Alienange
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 12:31:19 PM
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I didn't know they had a 90210 zip in CT.

Seriously, these women sound like they want/like drama. If C steals you away from A then imagine the pride she would feel. Or perhaps that's what A has already done and C thinks she's wrong and can still have a 'meaningful' relationship with you where A was a one night stand.

For you out there encouraging Ben to 'ride the wave,' that's just bad advice. Ben's a man. He makes decisions. He doesn't ride the wave. That's why this situation is uncomfortable for him. I say make a decision. Sure as heck don't let THEM start telling you what's going to happen.

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WorldEndsWithMe
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 2:07:12 PM

Damn right, some of us are in the unfortunate position of having to consider peoples feelings!

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 2:34:39 PM

...that's from a movie...I know it is...and it's going to drive me crazy until I figure it out...

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WorldEndsWithMe
Sunday, May 17, 2009 @ 12:06:49 AM

Want me to tell you?

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Sunday, May 17, 2009 @ 12:52:11 AM

'sigh' May as well. My brain is fried.

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WorldEndsWithMe
Sunday, May 17, 2009 @ 1:00:27 AM

The hint is in my previous post about orgies: It's a Seinfeld reference :)

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Sunday, May 17, 2009 @ 9:21:18 PM

Oh my GOD. Of COURSE it is. And it just PROVES how bad my brain is fried; I know each and every episode by heart. I can recite entire episodes line for line.

CHRIST, what are these girls DOING to me?!

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tes37
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 1:50:24 PM
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Amy evidently didn't catch your eye well enough to prevent this from being an issue for you.

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Nasty80
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 4:53:03 PM
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just make a choice and tell the other one,
C-YA!

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Bugzbunny109
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 7:37:19 PM
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Ben: You need to ease up a bit. It is good that you can write about your personal life to about 9000 gamers( I can't do that; just dont have the balls) but dont let this get out of hand. Your editorials are entertaining, but please remember this IS a gaming site.

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Alienange
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 7:47:09 PM

Welcome to the new era of gaming sites then Bugz. Where girls are part of a male gamer's life and therefore are the topic of great editorials.

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Oyashiro
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 8:13:08 PM

Ben is sorta like Duke. He has balls of steel!

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 10:30:55 PM

As it stands, we put up about 50 articles per week...if 1 of them has anything to do with me, I don't think that's an abnormal ratio.

And it's probably closer to a few hundred thousand, not 9,000 (those are just registered members). :)

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Bugzbunny109
Sunday, May 17, 2009 @ 7:56:54 AM

I could swear I saw 9,412 as the the total members on the site's stats. Ben, you should remember this is a gaming site. It is good you write about your personal life because it gets the readers to be more familiar with you, but this is about your 5th or 6th article in the past month or 2 months. We dont need to be too familar with your love life; just ease up. Alienage, it's NOT about the girls, but is about Ben; it's HIS personal life!

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Sunday, May 17, 2009 @ 9:24:06 PM

Those are members, not visitors. The visitors can easily be over a million on big months.

And this isn't common. According to our database, I'd say about 99.7% of all articles are gaming-related, so I think we're fine.

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 10:31:26 PM
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Anyway, things have gone a little nuts. You may notice that I'm here and it's 11:30...only a half-hour after the supposed date. I can't talk about it right now, though.

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somethingrandom
Sunday, May 17, 2009 @ 12:46:57 AM

Oh? does that mean something went wrong, or Miss Courtney is urgent about taking you for a spin?

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BikerSaint
Saturday, May 16, 2009 @ 11:11:41 PM
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OH NOOOO,
I know CT is the homebase for America's insurance companies, but please don't tell us that MS C & A both chipped to get you a double-indemity insurance policy....

and then tried to cash it in tonight!

(Damned hitwomen, don't ya just hate em?)
LMFAO.

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Sunday, May 17, 2009 @ 12:46:43 AM

HA! Only one's an insurance executive, though. The other is a broker. ...she may try to get me to invest money I don't have, though. ;)

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somethingrandom
Sunday, May 17, 2009 @ 12:43:06 AM
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Just sleep with Miss Courtney, then choose the one that does more things in bed. Simple...

I guess because of your previous post, things didn't go well with miss Courtney. You going for Amy?

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Sunday, May 17, 2009 @ 12:47:01 AM

It's...complicated.

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somethingrandom
Sunday, May 17, 2009 @ 12:49:16 AM

I bet...

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AntDC
Sunday, May 17, 2009 @ 4:11:16 AM
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Which one do you find easier to talk to? On the grand scale of things that question sounds a bit stupid, but who do you feel most comfortable and more at ease with?

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kevyd09
Sunday, May 17, 2009 @ 6:36:14 AM
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i no whats happened!!! they have both dumped ya!! or miss amy has said she is pregnant and your the daddy!!
but any way keep the posts coming, where else would we get an insight into the lives of the good people who run these gamer websites, makes it more personal and friendly place to come and visit!

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Troy Powers
Sunday, May 17, 2009 @ 10:42:26 AM
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Sounds to me like they're going to FORCE you into a threesome. Poor guy.

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tlpn99
Sunday, May 17, 2009 @ 12:41:23 PM
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Ben we got your back. As for making a decision heck I can't make my own decision sometimes on stuff let alone someone else's, all else fails do what I do and flip a coin, sometimes let fate decide is the best answer.

However wait till you have spent the same amount of time with the the other person to break it evenly then decide and if you cant decide then the coin toss comes into play.

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LightShow
Sunday, May 17, 2009 @ 4:54:56 PM
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i still stick by my original statement: say thats its bullshit and walk out.

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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Sunday, May 17, 2009 @ 9:22:38 PM
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This is too nuts to talk about right now. Have to deal with this at a later time. :)

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BikerSaint
Sunday, May 17, 2009 @ 9:39:31 PM
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Damn Ben, Now you sound like Howie Mandel on Deal or No Deal...

"Let's open the case an see if you're our million dollar winner....but".....
RIGHT AFTER THESE 17 COMMERCIALS

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OriginalSin
Monday, May 18, 2009 @ 3:50:18 AM
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Hahahaha..... Man I love this show! Keep posting this kind of stuff Ben. From time to time that is. It is very interesting to see what the different people have in mind....

Now for what I would do:

1- Go for the threesome....Worth the risk I say.

2- If you feel uncomfortable with that get the 2 of them to have a "f*** off" if you know what I mean. get them to have a go at each other and just watch. See which one seems the most err.... dedicated. The winner takes all. If it's a tie please refer to option 1... (I know that probably a bit insane but h3ll man that will be fun either way)

3- Go for Ms Amy ( seems like you to hit it off pretty well and something just tells me she's the one for you and in the end you only slept with one of them which will show you are the one girl kinda guy which will count in your favor at some point)

4- Go for Ms Courtney as she was the first one to show interest in you and she is the "original" one... But then just know seeing they are friend and you already got "jiggy" with Ms Amy that will always hang over your relationship with Ms Courtney. And you'll still be around Ms Amy once in a while.... trust me that won't be easy to keep it legit.

I know this probably doesn't help but I'd go with option 2.... And maybe 3...

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vicious54
Monday, May 18, 2009 @ 10:46:05 AM
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Haha, Ms. Courtney must have heard something she liked.

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LegendarySai
Sunday, June 14, 2009 @ 12:04:52 PM
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dude, we r never gonna get bored of your "little personal updates"...
as to your problem, i would choose the more interesting girl. the relationship is more likely to be interesting.

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