To Be A Gamer, You Have To...
I never fit. Ever. No matter what I do or how the industry changes, I am simply not synonymous with video games. Or so most say.
It's not just a matter of stereotypes; it's more about associations. For instance, if someone enjoys camping, most will assume they also like animals. If someone likes to sing karaoke, it's usually safe to assume that person is a music-lover. Various elements of our hobbies can and often are found in other leisure activities, so it's natural to make such assumptions. But here are a few that people make when they discover you're a gamer, and my corresponding reality:
You must like sci-fi; both reading it and watching it
Nah. There was a time when I loved Robert Jordan's "Wheel of Time" series and I did enjoy "Firefly" but for the most part, I'm no sci-fi buff. I never understood the fascination with "Star Wars" and "Star Trek," I don't watch any sci-fi on TV or in the theaters, and as far as reading goes, I've stuck to the classics over the past five or six years. This is mostly because the classics vastly outstrip even the best contemporary work, but whatever.
You must've been into comic books...or maybe still are
Nope. I think I read a few Archie comic books at my grandmother's house when I was a kid, but that's about it. I'm pretty sure I never owned any myself and I didn't really care, either. It's just another obsession I've never grasped and thus, the superhero phase in Hollywood didn't really appeal to me, either. I did like the "Batman" movies, though. I guess comics have always been lumped into "geekdom" from the start, and that's unavoidable and undying.
You must like gadgets and all other electronic stuff, too
Wrong. I hate most all of them; I barely use my five-year-old cell phone and I couldn't possibly care less about smartphones. I basically despise the "social" Internet networks like Facebook and MySpace and Twitter. If I didn't use it for work, I'd probably only have a computer for writing and e-mail; I know very little about computers in general. I had some fun with remote-controlled cars back in the day, and those little handheld Tiger games, but that's about it. Games are my only electronic passion, really.
You must be in poor health
Coming from a family that encourages a good diet and exercise, and being athletic from the time I was in kindergarten, this is almost out of the question. This is usually the biggest surprise when the uneducated find out what I enjoy (and what I do). Many think I did play video games a lot, and then I discovered sunlight and decided to lose 100 pounds. I could tell them I've had a standard workout regiment for 8 years and I could probably curl them if they lay horizontal, but why bother? Their head will explode.
You must only play video games
The idea that anybody who plays a game once is immediately hooked for life came from the addiction scares of the '80s. And trust me, it really hasn't gone anywhere. For whatever reason, the clueless assume that if you're a gamer, that's all you are; it defines your life. The only way it's even close to reality for me is because it's my job; other than that, it's quite inaccurate. It's just another automatic assumption that has never encompassed me.
Like I said, I just don't fit. "To be a gamer, you have to..." seems to follow in the minds of the mainstream populace, and I'm not really complaining. It's only natural to make connections. I'm just wondering how many others don't fit the mold, so-to-speak. And P.S.- the reason I chose this picture is because most girls don't play their games wearing underwear and high heels. It's about as rare as finding a gamer like me, I suppose.
4/15/2011 Ben Dutka
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gunblademaster
Friday, April 15, 2011 @ 9:42:32 PM
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Douchebaguette
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 6:37:51 AM
Materialistic as hell. I mean who lets these people write this confetti?
AcHiLLiA
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 2:00:38 PM
Lawless SXE
Friday, April 15, 2011 @ 10:17:19 PM
Lawless SXE
Friday, April 15, 2011 @ 10:15:15 PM
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Peace.
Shiva369
Friday, April 15, 2011 @ 10:17:41 PM
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Must admit tho, when I read your line about camping, my first thought was "what's camping got to do with animals...oh right, *that* camping". So that'd fit the stereotype I guess ;-)
Qubex
Friday, April 15, 2011 @ 10:28:30 PM
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Q!
"play.experience.enjoy"
Scarecrow
Friday, April 15, 2011 @ 10:33:09 PM
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Have always disliked Star Wars and its clones.
These associations are ignorant, and will sadly be passed down from generation to generation by society.
One has to eventually not care about what people think about gamers.
Clamedeus
Friday, April 15, 2011 @ 10:39:22 PM
Clamedeus
Friday, April 15, 2011 @ 10:36:23 PM
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I love electronics, my health is ok it could be better i got sick a couple of years ago they still don't know what happened both my kidneys shut down on me when i was 19/18 i can't quite remember had a stroke was in a coma for 2 weeks had to re-learn things like speech, reading etc my memory is horrible.
Had surgery so my metabolism slowed i put on some pounds working on getting that off i weigh like 208 even though i don't look like it.
But that's life for you, you gotta learn to love what you have and chug along.
But the most weirdest part though i was very healthy when i was younger and Bam! I used to go outside and do a lot of things like basketball swimming etc.
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Scarecrow
Friday, April 15, 2011 @ 11:04:39 PM
Clamedeus
Friday, April 15, 2011 @ 11:13:14 PM
WorldEndsWithMe
Friday, April 15, 2011 @ 11:48:10 PM
BTNwarrior
Friday, April 15, 2011 @ 11:05:44 PM
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Highlander
Friday, April 15, 2011 @ 11:44:25 PM
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LOL!
I fall into about two of the multiple stereotypes for gamers, and a few other categories that would ordinarily rule out being a gamer, so I guess I'm pretty typical...LOL!
Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 12:20:38 AM
Highlander
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 2:08:12 AM
Gone
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 10:01:13 AM
Underdog15
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 12:11:02 PM
Highlander
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 4:47:39 PM
gunblademaster
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 12:07:57 AM
Sooo yeah, everyone can use some improvement.
It comes back to this idea of 'nobody is perfect'
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WorldEndsWithMe
Friday, April 15, 2011 @ 11:55:15 PM
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It's the people who refuse to allow anything BUT the stereotype in who I'm worried about. Stereotypes come from somewhere, but I'd like to think that somewhere down the line being a regular gamer will be as accepted as being a regular movie-goer. It probably won't be soon but we'll get there.
I never quite fit in anywhere so I always gave a nod to Sinatra and did it my way. One of the greatest things about this life is that really, nobody gives a sh*t what you do. No girl goes home and sits on her couch alone and says "Wow I'm glad I turned THAT guy down, HE plays video games!"
Live a flourishing life and be happy with yourself and you'll both attract the right kind of people around you and not turn into a righteous pr*ck.
Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 12:07:14 AM
WorldEndsWithMe
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 12:36:56 AM
I've also noticed that if you're absolutely sure of yourself and what you are into and make no apologies for it, people respect you more.
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Lawless SXE
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 12:43:28 AM
kraygen
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 9:10:33 AM
To be fair though I have known some guys who would be addicted to gaming if it was allowed in their homes. They end up putting a video game before their family, which is obviously wrong.
However most married women I know seem to expect their husband to do something more productive than play games. I know their are women out there like my wife who think it's ok to play video games. I personally think it just comes down to being responsible. Don't put your games before your ladies and ladies don't stereotype your game loving man.
Qubex
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 1:52:38 PM
sha4dowknight05
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 12:02:47 AM
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Alienange
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 1:02:54 AM
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Comic books? Yeah, back as a young adult for a couple years. Still have them around here somewhere...
Electronic Gadgets? Nah. I've got a train set sitting here and a netbook on my gaming couch, but that's it.
Poor health is an interesting one. I might be. I know I sneeze sometimes.
And lastly, yes, I only play video games.
DirtySkillzHD
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 1:03:01 AM
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BikerSaint
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 1:26:56 AM
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WorldEndsWithMe
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 2:36:23 AM
BikerSaint
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 10:04:49 PM
JMO_INDY
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 1:33:32 AM
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deadmanwithin
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 2:56:42 AM
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I think you meant "Poor physical shape" rather than overall "poor health".Even the best athletes can catch a cold or get infected with something.
Since I love the outdoors(hiking&climbing are my things) and I visit a dojo 4 times a week,I don't fit that one.
Video games don't define my life.The very idea is ridiculous for people like me.Though I do enjoy the expressions of people when they find out that I play video games for fun . "You play VIDEO GAMES ? You don't look like it" ... "Well you didn't look like an idiot,but then you had to start talking"
The concept of stereotypes is for close-minded people,and when you don't meet their expectations they tend to get baffled/annoyed.
It's not like we care,though.
Lawless SXE
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 3:20:57 AM
just2skillf00l
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 3:12:11 AM
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However, I don't fall into any of the other categories though. If I did then well...I did. There's always some self-righteous critical mastermind out there trying to label other people. From my experience I've learned that those people are the most insecure ones. Just do what you do. No one person is superior to you no matter how they try and spin it. We're all just people. Irrational sometimes, maybe even foolish, but looking for a better tomorrow.
p.s- (Did I just say looking for a better tomorrow?) I know that somewhere in the world a bumper sticker just died a little more, prematurely peeled a little bit faster. Gomenasai!
___________
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 3:19:41 AM
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you would think over time they would die, and people would stop believing them.
but you would think wrong!
if i have had a penny for every time i heard someone say your too old to play video games id be a miltibillionare by now!
my uncles 84 and he still plays games from time to time!
JMO_INDY
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 1:09:47 PM
PharaohJR
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 3:21:36 AM
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comic books..... love the characters & there meaning with there talents & purpose watch the comic movies heavy but books..... naw.
gadgets.... if u taliking bout electronic devices that i get to command & the results equal fun.... yuh already.
poor health... when u from the struggle 95% will spend there time outside growing up & im in the 95. health wise dr say im good. body wise folks try to figure out how im lean & fit, i telem watchout for s$#@.
all i know is gaming.... naw love bmx mainly jus flying threw the area like bmx races over stunting. i medidtate with or without tha herb. workout, researching, drawing, dj & try to get involved more with cars.
looks like the branches shown are activities that have to do with tryna escape life.
Ludicrous_Liam
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 3:39:28 AM
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But yeah Ben. Your like a double of me lol. 'Cept I don't workout apart from 100 push-ups each day and a game of football now & then. Social networking sites really get under my skin also. My sister posts practically everything she does on facebook, and I'm like 'you do realise nobody gives sh**. Alas, I don't think she does.
But umn, in my eyes, to be a REAL gamer, you have to be able to adapt to any type of game. Like you can't just say "Argh screw this tactical crap lets go play cod". Anyone agree?
Lawless SXE
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 3:53:00 AM
Ludicrous_Liam
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 8:51:31 AM
crunchy_nut_kid
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 3:42:32 AM
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RadioHeader
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 3:55:18 AM
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Cole
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 3:59:23 AM
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1.I'm not into scifi.. never have been, never will be. I'm currently playing Mass Effect 2 and while I consider it a good game with a decent story, I just don't get why the gaming media heaps so much praise on it.
2.I enjoy reading comics when I get the chance, but it's not a hobby that I actively pursue.
3.I know more about pc's and gaming consoles than the average bloke, but that's about it.
4.I'm in better shape than most of the 'normal' people I know. I swim, cycle or gym every day.
5.If anything, I don't play games often enough. My free time is spread a bit thin across my various interests.
Most of my friends and family see gaming as a childish passtime. They can't understand why I haven't outgrown it yet. The few gaming buddies I do have confine themselves to their preconceptions of what they consider to be 'adult' games. They tend to snigger at me for playing what they see as kiddey games.(Mario, Kirby, Ratchet and Clank ,etc.)
I don't let it bother me. I've been gaming since I was about 4 years old.(I'm 25 now.)The medium has grown and matured just as I have. And will continue to do so. I'll be there every step of the way.
As for the ribbing I get from my gaming buddies.. It's their choice if they want to miss out on good games just because of the subject matter. If a game is good, I will play it regardless.
Douchebaguette
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 6:13:30 AM
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Beamboom
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 6:36:48 AM
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I live&breath sci-fi (Ben, give a collection of new sci-fi *short stories* a chance, they often have the "classic" feel to them), am a trekkie since early teens (the restored versions on blu-ray are *fantastic*, best restoration work I've seen on HD so far), my Marvel collection still grows every year, everything that's electronic and preferably with blinking lights automatically get my attention, and as a result of all of the above I have the health/stamina of a 70yr old man. Oh and my gf is half my age. Do this make me a cliché?
Only thing missing on that list to make it a complete profile of me would be computing/programming geek.
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MadPowerBomber
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 6:47:21 AM
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I'm going to avoid getting myself into a huge rant, 'cause I hate when people make assumptions and generalizations about comics and people that read them (more so than video games), and I'm going to keep it short. I seriously doubt you've met anyone obsessed with comics. Obsessed with superheroes, definitely, but not comics. Comics are an artform, a medium; they're telling stories with pictures and words. That's all.
And... that guess? It's a bad one and a wrong one. There was a time in American history when comics flourished. They had a wide range of readers from all walks of life and had an even larger range of diversity amongst genres. It wasn't until the birth of the Comics Code Authority that thigns went down hill for the medium in this country, and they've not been able to wipe the tarnish of what the Authority did since -- although, the Authority is gone. No longer. Even Archie comics publishes without it nowadays. They've only recently began to reach a wider audience through the translation and republication of Japanese comics here, and even that lends a hand to further segregating western material.
Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 10:22:28 AM
MadPowerBomber
Sunday, April 17, 2011 @ 9:40:08 PM
It sure is a good thing I was just talking about you and your uneducated guess about the social stature of comics since their inception in the early 1990s and not the masses!
Oh, and about your bullshit statistic that you dredged up from the bowls of OHMYGODTHATWASCOMPLETELYRANDOM?
Yeah, the entire country of Japan might disagree with you on that. You should look into that before, y'know, you go making stuff up. Just sayin'.
Bjorn77
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 7:35:17 AM
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I love SciFi
I Liked comic books in my youth
But I am in good health, I practice MMA and Muay Thai on regular base.
I hate Gadgets and Social Media
I play games regularly but in no way that's all I do.
So 2 out of 3! I am a casual gamer then?
parasitic
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 8:13:42 AM
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For me I guess I fit into a few of those listed here, I do like new gadgets, I like to know more about them and whats new coming in the near future, but usually being a student I can't afford them, so that still leaves me in a normal position, not being surrounded by the latest electronics.
I do like some sci-fi books and films, probably because I like many futuristic things including the clothing style. Nothing like star wars and star trek or any TV shows similar to these.
I guess I am fairly healthy in terms of my body shape, I walk everywhere, dance off the alcohol consumed, but I do like to eat fast food like pizzas but because I still under-eat it simply never stays on me, so the illusion is that I am fairly healthy.
I guess that's 3 boxes ticked, but still with many 'buts'.
So I am a casual gamer of some sorts and that is true more recently as there's barely any time for playing games in my life with all the studying and making games :D
kraygen
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 9:26:30 AM
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I love comic books, I am a collector. I have issue #1 of Amazing Spider-Man. I am picky about my comics, but the ones I have I love.
I am a tech freak. This pertains to tech that I find useful though. Social media is annoying for the most part and I don't own a smart phone. I see smart phones as expensive gadgets that do poorly what other gadgets do better at home. I like to mess with computers and find useful gadgets to make life easier. Instead of buying an mp3 player I put a stereo in my car that has usb and I just use a thumb drive to carry my music.
I am in poor health, but it has nothing to do with my gaming. I have health issues that cause weight gain, so even though I work out, I'm still a little over weight.
I have been stereotyped my whole life and could care less, just because I do all of these things doesn't mean that is all there is to me. I write, working on a book, I've always written poetry, I write song lyrics.
I love rock music and classical music, I love action movies and I love drama's. I like Jimmy Stewart and Dick Van Dyke. I love dogs, hate cats, love to travel and try strange foods. If I have a good book I'd rather read than do just about anything else. I'm strange, weird, and complicated.
Basically stereotyping is for the narrow minded. Think of me what you will because I could care less. Until you remove your stereotypes and get to know someone you'll never understand them.
Shatterday
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 10:13:59 AM
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Aranha
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 10:58:07 AM
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The sci-fi thing, I never really read any sci-fi books, but I do enjoy a good sci-fi flick here and there, but for me it's more about content and quality, and that goes for just about everything. Star Trek is a good example, because I never really watched the show(s), or any of the previous movies, but was blown away by the very last movie that was released in '09. I understand some were upset by an alternate storyline, but I don't think many can argue that it wasn't a quality film. Had it been called "Some Random Sci-fi Flick" it would've been loved by all. But I've gone off topic on this one.
Comics never did it for me, yet I love to read. I guess I never made an effort into turning comic reading into a hobby, because I can't say I dislike comics. I read almost anything, so I can't be specific in terms of what I like. Like I said, it's the content and quality of the material that do it for me, so I can read about just any topic.
The whole gadget thing, well, most guys like electronics. But yeah, since childhood, I've had a knack for electronics, so you can call me a sucker for those, but I've delayed my early adopter ways, partly due to finances, and partly due to not feeling like it's been worth it as much (I still ended up w/ an MGS4 PS3 bundle, which makes me feel like I got the best overall system (don't jump down my throat 60GB-ers, I know you've been playing your system longer and have better PS2 BC than I); a PS3 system w/ BC on most of my PS Games of the 2 previous generations, a DualShock 3, MGS4, 4 usb ports, an 80GB HDD (which I've now upgraded to 500GB) and the chrome trimming of the 60GB launch system, at the price of what the 20GB system was). Also, I got my degree in Computer Information Systems, attended BOCES 2 yrs in high school for PC Repair and Technical Electronics, and it's almost in my blood (3 of my uncles are engineers).
But I'll tell ya, most people can't believe that I'm a gamer (not as "hardcore" as I used to be in my younger days, but a gamer nonetheless) because of the great health I'm in. Every doctor I've gone to says I'm in amazing health. A month or two ago, a doctor that specializes in natural remedies and wellness said I'm the healthiest person he's seen in a very LOOOONNG time. My life insurance agent said my result came back and I'm in the top 10%, and that I have the health and physique of an Olympic athlete. I kid you not my fellow readers and commentors. I'm also a practitioner of Capoeira, and am learning Wing Chun. In high school I was in a sport during every season (Fencing, Swimming, Lacrosse, Tennis), and to this day hold one of the fastest times for the shuttle run in the school's history (7.6sec), along with a pretty decent mile run (5min 50sec). I also know gymnastics (which integrates beautifully into Capoeira), and when it comes to eating, my habits are pretty good; doc tells me I have a balanced diet. I try not to eat too many greasy foods, staying away from soda and other sugar-loaded drinks and foods, and I drink plenty of water. Besides, my body seems to crave healthy food, which makes it easy for me to eat healthy, probably because that's what my exposure has been.
Either way, I kinda get a kick out of people's reactions because of this, because I'm such a mixed bag. Too bad that leaves me at the "Jack of all trades, master of none" group, but it's all good. I'd rather know a little about a lot, than a lot about a little, although that can be subjective.
Sorry for the long post, especially this being my first (possibly second?) post, but I've been a reader on this site for awhile now, and I couldn't resist commenting. I read and check on this site 2-3 times a day, and it's about time I contributed SOMETHING.
It's been a pleasure, peace.
Qubex
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 1:54:23 PM
Aranha
Saturday, April 16, 2011 @ 3:12:15 PM
bigrailer19
Sunday, April 17, 2011 @ 2:21:08 AM
It's amazing your in that good of health. I find it fascinating that people like yourself can so easily exert the body to that degree. What mean is I work out 3-5 days a week, I play slowpitch softball year round and engage in motocross (one of the top physically demanding sports) and I don't see myself being anywhere near that type of health! Mainly because I just eat what I like lol. I only consume liquids like water and juices and milk. I don't drink soda or anything like that, but will have the occasional beer. But food. I love food. I love to cook, and I love to try most types of foods. So it's hard for me to eat "right" as they say. I do however stay far away from fast food chains. ;)
Skatejimmy5
Sunday, April 17, 2011 @ 5:55:33 AM
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I like iPhones, but I don't really care for any other gadgets. Facebook and Twitter are nice, but not essential to my life.
I'm in somewhat good shape, I guess. I don't work out all the time, but I run sometimes and play badminton every Sunday. So I'm not just a couch potato. I also skateboard, so I'm not really in poor health.
There you have it, not everyone is one of the stereotypes, but I'm sure a lot of people fit these connections. At least some of them.
;)
Beer Bandit
Monday, April 18, 2011 @ 10:32:17 AM
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ChadWSmith
Monday, April 18, 2011 @ 11:26:18 AM
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I'm not saying you have to do all those things to be a gamer - but if you don't do any of them - particularly "game all the time" - then you aren't a true gamer. You're a casual gamer, at best.
The reason the association between SciFi and games, and SuperHeroes and games is obvious - look at the content of most games. SciFi, Fantasy, and SuperHeroes.
As as far as liking other gadgets - that's pretty much a safe bet, too, for most true gamers. It stems from comparing various consoles, particularly handhelds, before purchase - and/or building your own gaming rig, or knowing what you need to know to buy a good rig....
The part about being in good health, that's a result of people who play games all the time - they probably aren't in good health, because sitting and playing video games doesn't burn a lot of calories. And up until the Wii and then Move and Kinect - there wasn't much movement involved. Even now, the vast majority of games can be played sitting on a couch. But - it's certainly not always true.
Anyone can play video games. But to be a true "Gamer" you need to be more committed than you seem to be.
Lairfan
Monday, April 18, 2011 @ 6:25:56 PM
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Anyways, I easily fall into the first category. I love sci-fi. Its my favorite genre out of all other genres, and as long as its quality I eat it up.
As for the other ones, well, I've never been into comic books, though I like certain characters like Batman and Iron Man (with the recent addition of Cole the Electric Man). I dislike technology's over-complexity, but I'm cool with services like Steam that offer a lot of options. I'm always open to cool options that I would like to use when it comes to tech.
I'm in decent health right now. I exercise enough to keep healthy and trimmed down, but I'm certainly not an athlete by any means. As for playing video games exclusively, I don't do that at all. I love reading, watching movies, watching good TV (none of that reality crap or any remakes of old shows like V), and playing games equally. They all offer something unique and interesting for me to do when I'm bored or want an escape.

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