Can Video Games Really Affect Your Sex Life?
See Full ImageSo there's this study that "proved" the majority of men prefer playing video games over having sex. I put "proved" in quotations because they used adrenaline as the determining factor (and I'm fairly certain there's a lot more involved with both activities, especially sex), and also because there were only 100 participants.
Believe what you will, but I believe it raises an important question: as gaming becomes more mainstream and as more and more individuals are becoming involved with the hobby, other forms of entertainment can - and often do - take a back seat to the interactive video goodness. Furthermore, given the vast increases in realism and authenticity, we've never felt more immersed or absorbed; the experiences are becoming more intense with every passing year. Now, let's tack on a few more elements as they relate to our current society: I think it's obvious that we are, as a country, in a critical state of health and there have never been more people who aren't physically capable of sex. Then there's the increased sedentary lifestyle, which far too many embrace, and such people tend to gravitate towards gaming...perhaps even more than sex. Lastly, I'm of the firm belief that an enhanced emphasis on the pseudo-communication via electronics has caused the entire society to become developmentally and emotionally stunted. Traits like charm and charisma seem to have all but died.
You may not agree with me on this last point (and many will not), but the bottom line is that we may be less acquainted with intimacy and closeness than ever before, which, in and of itself, has a direct impact on a sex life. And if we conclude that gaming is a hobby that tends to promote more sitting and less activity, along with its spiking popularity and the declining health of the populace, perhaps gaming does indeed affect sex and relationships, either directly or indirectly. Now, this may be using more of that nigh-on useless psychology degree of mine (and less of any gaming knowledge I may have), but perhaps it's worth talking about. As a topic of conversation, it's bound to be...interesting.
5/25/2010 9:35:03 PM Ben Dutka
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arv1102
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 11:50:20 AM
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WorldEndsWithMe
Tuesday, May 25, 2010 @ 10:06:15 PM
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As far as the sex thing goes, I suppose anything could disrupt that, but I don't think games are likely to cause a big problem unless your woman particularly hates it when you play your games and wants to punish you. Then again if you lay around all day playing games and begin to approach the size of Gabe Newell, you might not get much sex.
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to_far_apart
Tuesday, May 25, 2010 @ 10:27:30 PM
And you would be lucky if you could make that call, it was very uncommon to interrupt meals and so on. But you're right, the social aspect in life is being depleted by the second. Texts and Instand Messaging contribute largely to this, in my opinion. I don't know about anyone, but when I like a woman, I make it a point to see her, and if I can't I call her, nothing better than hearing a voice on the other side. Unfortunately, all you see today is a bunch of ignorant kids with no manners, disrespecting authority, stuck to their phones like if it was there livelihood, etc. Society is to blame, however, when social media such as television, movies, and music just make these moments and behaviors accepted in general society, not to mention the parents who don't take responsibility and let them run free and wild.
I don't know about anyone, but one good smack in the mouth or belt sure set me straight. Looks to me like we could use a little more of the "tough Love."
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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Tuesday, May 25, 2010 @ 10:39:26 PM
But yes to all the rest.
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laxpro2001
Tuesday, May 25, 2010 @ 11:50:08 PM
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Qubex
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 12:01:47 AM
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"play.experience.enjoy"
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fluffer nutter
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 12:59:48 AM
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WorldEndsWithMe
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 3:04:00 AM
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Bugzbunny109
Tuesday, May 25, 2010 @ 10:07:47 PM
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Still, regardless, we men should not ignore our women because they have these things called “feelings” lol, I kid. But really, a game should not be as important as your woman regardless of how rewarding it is.
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bxshotboi
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 12:35:58 AM
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nogoat23
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 11:16:46 AM
I'm kidding, of course. The above idea is pretty much the worst idea ever.
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bridgera
Thursday, May 27, 2010 @ 3:08:24 PM
And this next sentance has nothing to do with video games, but I just don't get the intellectual stimulation from sex, if I'm not challenged (at anything), it's hard for me to keep interest.
Other things do keep my interest, such as video games, but I can only have so much sex.
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Alienange
Tuesday, May 25, 2010 @ 10:13:56 PM
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WorldEndsWithMe
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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Tuesday, May 25, 2010 @ 10:40:03 PM
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Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 2:00:06 PM
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Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 2:12:39 PM
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Underdog15
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 6:07:14 PM
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Nlayer
Tuesday, May 25, 2010 @ 10:40:41 PM
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Heck, I may even try to get an online relationship because it seems like it would be best to find someone with the same interests as me. Entertainment has driven me and my friends away from sex basically. =/
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bxshotboi
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 12:38:48 AM
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DemonNeno
Tuesday, May 25, 2010 @ 11:00:21 PM
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I know, call me crazy! "How can gmaing" be used in the wrong manner, Neno?! Well, people veg out doing it. And only it. It's so easy to sit on a couch and game as long as you can, ignoring life around you. Like a misused drug.
Does gaming interfere with sex? I'd be one to vote nope! If my partner is with me and I know she's not fond of me wrestling a controller for hours, or at times for even half an hour, I move on. If you're having a problem putting down the controller to satisfy your mate, mentally and physically, then I'd venture to say that you're probably not that attracted to him/her.
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Dancemachine55
Tuesday, May 25, 2010 @ 11:07:41 PM
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I'll admit, I've never had a girlfriend before, but I do continue to try. I often feel a longing to spend more time with someone rather than time with something (my PS3).
I guess if you're at that stage of your relationship that the intimacy is near dead, then I can see a valid reason for some preferring video games over sex.
But using adrenaline count as a base to make that claim is completely wrong. You don't have to have a degree in psychology to know that drawing that conclusion from a study of 100 guys and measuring only adrenaline is completely unproven.
What about the rest of the masses who might have a PS2 and a handful of games who play it once a month?
What about the preferences of the participants in the study? What if they were to compare video games to sex based on preference?
And for a more accurate study, shouldn't the participants play the best game available, ie Uncharted 2 or Mario Galaxy 2, and have the best sex ever with a supermodel to make an accurate comparison? Followed by a playthrough of the worst or most unengaging game ever (Game Party on Wii) compared to sex with a highly undesirable woman?
That study would be far more accurate and would have far more participants willing to do it for free. :P
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Highlander
Tuesday, May 25, 2010 @ 11:28:51 PM
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As we draw away from each other, and away from face to face communication, away from people and towards avatars we lose many things. I live in an ordinary neighborhood, but I couldn't tell you the names of *any* of my neighbors. The thing is, I'm certain the same is true of all my neighbors.
But, I think this goes beyond the health impact of sedentary hobbies, it goes beyond the impact on our ability to be intimate with each other (emotionally intimate). As we move away from each other, becoming more and more insular on our little electronic islands we cease to care about each other. We don't care about anyone or anything unless it affects us, and on our increasingly small island we become fearful of everything else, becoming more insular as time passes.
I've seen this change happen during my life time. I grew up before the internet, before video games and VCRs, before CDs and before DVD. When I grew up kids played outside, played with each other, and knew each other. Neighbors knew each other and even socialized. When something happened to one of our neighbors we cared.
Things have changed since then. And the electronic cocoon we have surrounded ourselves with stops us from making contact again. We have online friends that we talk to safely, safely knowing that because we are not even using our own name, we can anonymously flame the crap out of them without worry, and we can say whatever we want without anyone who knows us knowing.
This electronic cocoon has not, on balance, been a good thing, and I think that we are at a critical point where our physical and emotional, (perhaps our spiritual) well being are under threat.
What do we do next? Turn inwards and rely on our technology for comfort, and use our fear and anger to preserve us? Or do we turn outwards and use our technology in ways that build up and enhances our lives and our physical and emotional health?
A wise book talks of maintaining a balance in all things, perhaps we need to remember that when we are into our fourth hour of a gaming marathon?
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to_far_apart
Tuesday, May 25, 2010 @ 11:49:54 PM
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Qubex
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 12:11:04 AM
My biggest gripes are, that socially, I feel that it can be one huge waste of time and resources... it really does cost money and time, and as I age, I am becoming jealously guarded with my time (or the time I have left); making sure I don't have to do unnecessary things, create unnecessary pressures for myself, and cause unnecessary costs for myself too.
Time, money and effort... this you need to build and keep a social circle, or build and keep (and manage - because it is hard work) a going relationship... I really couldn't be bothered.
I don't mind a very close circle of 3-5 people, my close trusted friends.
Even though I don't interact with all of you on a social level in physical form, there is still a connection and respect, and that is why if we were all in one room together, it would be a great experience talking about our gaming experiences and hobby ...there would be an immediate connection, and deep friendships would be made... and I am sure hold the tests of time...
So many things can just waste your time, honestly... I think people need to really be decisive about the social structures they build around them, and the amount of energy and effort one puts in a relationship... because, if it doesn't work out... what do you have left?
Q!
"sex.over.rated"
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Scarecrow
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 12:34:09 AM
There's a lot of decision making in life. How much time and money one will dedicate to forming something meaningful with someone else. Babes surely waste you a lot of time and money, sometimes it doesn't even work out either.
Not to say that we wouldn't pursue future relationships etc. But at the same time I think some become more intelligent/intolerant of how a potential gf is just wasting them their time.
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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 12:58:41 AM
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fluffer nutter
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 1:05:10 AM
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Highlander
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 2:00:24 AM
@Fluffer,
I think technology is neutral. Human nature drives us to exploit it the way in which we do. However, the point is that the seductive allure of the technology gradually pulls us in. There is a lot of research into various modes of communication, but in terms of the actual communication of information, the effectiveness of communication, do you know what the least effective is?
Email.
Communication between human beings is about word choice, inflection facial expression, body language, subtle changes in tone and pace. And yet we use what form of communication most in the working world (and increasingly in the social world)? Email. Email only sends words. No inflection, no gesture, no expression, no tone of voice or pace, only the words. MIsunderstandings are easy. Not to mention the old "I didn't get the email" ploy. Worse still is texting where words are replaced by cryptic abbreviations. Even less information is transmitted because word choice is limited to words that are short or can be abbreviated.
Telephones at least allow tone of voice, inflection, and pace to be discerned. Even though it's an order of magnitude better than email, the phone still misses the most important element of communication. Facial expression and body language.
How do you know if someone is lying to you, or trying to mislead you, or be completely honest, or any of a million other modes of expression without being able to see them?
If I remember correctly, the person presenting this information rated each mode in terms of how effective it was. Face to face is 100% effective, phones are less than 25% effective and email less than 10% effective. To be honest I think the %s are immaterial, it's clear when you consider how much you sacrifice going from face to face to telephone and then on to email and texts.
The point being that electronic technology for communication has made it possible to communicate with people all over the world. Unfortunately it's made it possible to mis-communicate all over the world because so much is lost by using email. Imagine how much worse it gets when the people communicating use different languages and the text has to be translated.
Any way, my point is that the technology has allowed us to strip all but the most necessary elements from communication, but in doing so we remove the human element.
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AcHiLLiA
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 8:33:32 AM
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Underdog15
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 10:13:38 AM
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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 10:17:20 AM
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WorldEndsWithMe
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Highlander
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Qubex
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 8:59:37 PM
Q!
"dinosaurs.evolved"
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Shams
Thursday, May 27, 2010 @ 2:36:09 PM
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SmokeyPSD
Tuesday, May 25, 2010 @ 11:30:17 PM
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Scarecrow
Tuesday, May 25, 2010 @ 11:30:22 PM
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No longer are face to face moments important. Now it's about how creative you can be through text messages. A lot of times babes seem to prefer IM than a phone call, weird I know.
But it's not entirely on games either. The media has a lot to do with it as well. There's too much influence from all the reality shows and all the bull you see in movies.
You know what v-games affects? Crime. There's a lot more people shooting it up in Call of Duty than on the streets. Don't quote me on this though, just what I think.
V-games is a hobby, people mostly engage on it when they have time for it.
Overall it's society which is at fault here with its "let's do everything through technology" mindset.
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wakkaoaka
Tuesday, May 25, 2010 @ 11:46:04 PM
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Tuesday, May 25, 2010 @ 11:50:15 PM
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Milonakis
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coverton341
Tuesday, May 25, 2010 @ 11:52:35 PM
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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 1:00:06 AM
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WorldEndsWithMe
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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
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coverton341
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totozero18
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donfelipe
Tuesday, May 25, 2010 @ 11:52:58 PM
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But I can't play anything overly violent when the kid is awake either. Decisions decisions......
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WorldEndsWithMe
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 12:02:05 AM
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WorldEndsWithMe
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maxpontiac
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 12:07:02 AM
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For example, when it comes to having a healthy long term relationship, sex is all but one piece of the puzzle.
If you allow video games to interfere with your partner's needs, there will be consequences in the bedroom!!
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Jawknee
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 12:07:28 AM
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For the most part though it has not damaged my "relations" with my wife. I can see how it can, but i have enough self control so far to know when gaming time ends and the loving time begins.
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BikerSaint
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 12:14:47 AM
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1. Sex
2. Gaming
3. Sex
4. Gaming
5. Sex
Then I'll have a cigarette, & try to sneak in another gaming quickie!
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Alienange
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 11:56:49 AM
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bxshotboi
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 12:28:52 AM
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Scarecrow
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 12:37:24 AM
This is what can kill a marriage/relationship. She basically doesn't respect your choice to play v-games after working your ass off all day.
Yet, if you were to call her stupid for watching 2 hours of dumb TV shows she'd get mad.
There's a lack of respect and understanding going on there.
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bxshotboi
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 12:45:34 AM
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Underdog15
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 2:39:39 PM
Instead of getting mad at someone for not understanding, conduct an exercise that assists in developing a mutual understanding of free time. Actually, as a rule, never react to your partners presumable lack of understanding with anger. It won't accomplish anything. Nothing worse than developing an environment where everyone is on edge when you get home because she feels she can't talk to you when you play games because you'll just get angry. Similarly, avoid situations where you'll feel angry or short-tempered at something as minor as her talking to you while you play a game... all because you each assume the other will react a certain way and are entitled to their own version of rights.
Anyways, in terms of that exercise, do what I did. Jess (my wife) thought games were childish and I think she might have even expected me to sort of stop playing when we got married. I think she thought it was just a college activity for me. lol. Nope. I've been playing games since I was 4. Not stopping now.
Anyways, I would often argue with her about it. She would claim it's childish, and I would say it's far more productive than some of her shows she watched. So we compromised. I had to spend 2 hours watching shows she likes, and she had to play 2 hours of games with me.
The shows were "John and Kate plus 8" and "Say Yes to the Dress". You all think the first is lame... the latter was painful. At any rate, I didn't insult her shows (don't do that.), but I asked passive questions the whole time. Like... "So, basically the show is about selling and finding the perfect wedding dress?" "Why would they spend 5k on a dress?" (My wife spent under $150 at a store in Arizona. It was beautiful.) And my favorite question which generated the best discussion... "Why do you watch John and Kate if it makes you so mad?"
In the end, she asked me what I thought. I avoided saying things like "It's stupid." and put together much more convincing arguments about what the shows teach, and commented on how I'm no further ahead in my own cognitive development than I was initially.
Guess which game I picked for 2 hours?
Common guys. It's easy!
Figured it out yet?
Heavy Rain. (Obvious, no?)
Anyways, she LOVED it. In fact, we ended up playing through the whole game from start to finish within a week. Now, she respects the fact I occasionally need alone time, and because I appreciate that, I make more of a point to spend time with her BEFORE playing games.
I definitely don't recommend going straight to the games. Every day you should greet your partner with a hug n' kiss. It doesn't hurt to say you missed them or thought about them at some point. Also, ask them how their day was and then get this.... listen.
Believe it or not, putting in that time to focus on the things that actually matter most will result in more leisure and game time. Plus, you'll enjoy it without having to get your back up.
Edit: Also, my sex life is better with marriage than before. I don't think my methods are off kilter.
Last edited by Underdog15 on 5/26/2010 2:43:43 PM
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totozero18
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 3:34:30 PM
C'mon man that's pretty unfair, seemed more like pro-gaming brainwash as I read through your comment...HIGHFIVE
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Underdog15
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 6:26:29 PM
ya no kidding, eh? Hardly a fair fight. I was pretty confident. I knew all about the shows she watched, but she had never invested time into seeing what my games were like. No doubt she would /sarcasm/ LOVE /sarcasm/ what I wrote there. lol
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Hezzron
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 12:46:36 AM
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Hey PSXexteme! I'll have you know, I happen to live on the SECOND floor of my parent's house!
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BikerSaint
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 12:16:18 PM
Sounded like me too at one time.
I'll bet you also keep your bed spring's well oiled & your girl muffled like I did, so your parents won't hear you two break-dancing under the sheets.
I had to to take off the headboard too, cause we were becoming indirect percussionists.
Although I must say, the headboard had a nice heavy metal beat going as it was also banging away to all of our rhythms.
I knew it was time to move out when my parents commented about some strange long climatic drum roll they kept hearing all night.
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Robochic
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 1:31:44 AM
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gumbi
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 8:51:14 AM
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Highlander
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 10:03:12 AM
LOL! Spot on!
Four words that can halt you in your tracks;
"Is the door locked?"
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fluffer nutter
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 10:26:37 AM
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Highlander
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gumbi
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 8:59:38 AM
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And Highlander, you're the man. You can trust that many of us feel the same way, and share similar opinions, but few can put it to words like you do. Props.
The decline of real communication skills has been a hot topic to me for some time now. I offer a toast and a firm handshake to both of you.
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TheAgingHipster
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 9:33:21 AM
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Oh, Heavy Rain, how your interactive lovin' fills my lonely nights....
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fluffer nutter
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 10:28:00 AM
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TheAgingHipster
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NoSmokingBandit
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 10:08:43 AM
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Like all things in life, gaming should be taken in moderation.
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Deleted User
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 10:38:54 AM
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To much of anything isn't good for you.
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nogoat23
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 12:12:51 PM
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Can gaming affect your sex life? Sure. The simple fact of the matter is that when two things compete for the same resource, they can't help but affect one another. The resource here being time. If you spend all day doing one activity, you will have less time for the other.
However, I don't believe that gaming is the cause of our society's increased isolationism. Do you remember that window of time when gaming existed, but the internet didn't? I didn't spend my time watching youtube videos or updating the statuses on my various social network profiles. I spent it at the neighbors house seeing if we could get the blood code to work in Mortal Kombat. Gaming helped me be social.
People spend so much time on the internet these days. That is what I believe is negatively affecting our society more than anything else.
The internet is a great thing. We have more information at our fingertips, and it is easier to keep in touch with friends from around the world, but the internet is also relatively new. (I mean in the grand scheme of things. When you look at inventions that have changed our society forever, cars, electricity, etc., the internet is a pretty recent thing.)
I imagine that when television was invtented, all people did all day was watch tv. It was new. It was fun. It was exciting. It used up all your time and left less time for friendships. Then when people got used to it, they were better able to moderate how much tv they watched.
I think it's the same with the internet. People are so excited about it that they want to spend all their time on it, and that can negatively affect relationships.
There's no replacement for human interaction, and soon we'll go back to that place (if most of us are not there already) where telling people face to face about what is happening in your life is preferred to updating your status online.
Agree? Disagree? I'd love to hear your thoughts.
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Highlander
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 4:03:58 PM
One of the key elements of developmental disorders such as autisum is the inability to understand social cues and read the emotions & facial expressions of people. With the increased isolation and accompanying decrease in face to face human contact I wonder whether we are breeding a generation that's so stunted in their emotional growth that they could - in this way - be considered developmentally delayed.
I am not sure what the answer is, I suspect some will say that more technology, or perhaps more mature technology is the answer. I don't think so. I think the answer is more human contact. However in this hyper efficient world where we are all tiny cogs in the great machine that continues to accelerate it's pace whether we like it or not, I don't know how we can increase the amount of human contact.
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nogoat23
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 4:40:49 PM
Personally, I like email the best because a) spell check is slowly teaching me how to spell; and b) when I forget everything that I was just told, I can refer back to the email to remember.
However, I must agree that email cannot come close to the nuances of communication contained in a face to face conversation.
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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 12:17:32 PM
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"Some people have a way with words. Others not have way."
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BikerSaint
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 12:23:32 PM
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WorldEndsWithMe
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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
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Qubex
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 9:01:03 PM
Q!
"play.experience.enjoy"
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BikerSaint
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 12:21:55 PM
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Certainly agree with your "internet" comment.
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WorldEndsWithMe
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 2:36:19 PM
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Honorable mentions go to:
-Madison, Heavy Rain
-The massage scene in FFX-2, Yuna & LeBlanc
-Aphrodite and her handmaidens, GOWIII
-Tifa, FFVII (Yup, after you spend that first night in the bar a lady outside says she "saw you two together" the night before.)
And I wouldn't have minded the view Sazh got of Vanille when following her up (The fool turned his head) but it was worth a giggle :)
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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
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Highlander
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Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
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Highlander
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 4:09:04 PM
LOL! Bad man. Shion's supposed to be in her 20's.
As for KOS-MOS, not sure she had any scenes in the games, but I know she's had some scenes in the minds of gamers. If we're simply listing babes in games that we're quite partial to then I have to list Shion, KOS-MOS, Sophitia, Cassandra, Ivy, Xinghua and many, many more
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TheAgingHipster
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 4:09:17 PM
Ben, every female character in every JRPG ever made feels illegal. (And for the record, maybe "feels" is the wrong word? ;) )
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TheAgingHipster
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 4:10:03 PM
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WorldEndsWithMe
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 4:54:08 PM
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FlyingKickPunch
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 5:34:28 PM
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WorldEndsWithMe
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 6:15:20 PM
As far as Shion goes, I dunno why but I dig chicks with glasses.
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KNG201
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 4:23:08 PM
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CaptRon
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 4:27:07 PM
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FlyingKickPunch
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 5:55:55 PM
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Underdog15
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 6:27:31 PM
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Alexeon
Thursday, May 27, 2010 @ 1:06:35 PM
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Richy
Friday, May 28, 2010 @ 4:45:57 AM
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sorry for being late, been a bit off everything.
i believe in giving priority to what's really important in life.
After reading all the comments here, i can say that i have hope for humanity, it's easier to fight an enemy we know & works best when we are motivated.
a particular hat off to comments :
TheHighlander
Tuesday, May 25, 2010 @ 11:28:51 PM
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Underdog015
Wednesday, May 26, 2010 @ 2:39:39 PM
I consider myself lucky that my wify doesn't see gaming for kids (she plays on the PC while i'm on the PS3 LOL!) .. we do find time for each other.
as for the impact of technology on social life, well like a few mentioned already, nothing is good when in excess.
it's our task as parents of today or tomorrow to make sure our kids don't fall into that trap.
cheers!
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iSayuSay
Friday, May 28, 2010 @ 7:45:41 AM
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While you look at them .. wow, they're hot, sexy, wear tight pants and most importantly .. they are badass who kicks villain's face out of their butt
So, yes .. video games female characters are fabulous, we can do a lot of fantasy about them .. and please be sure of this: your girls will never be as good looking and badass as bayonetta
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to_far_apart
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Tuesday, May 25, 2010 @ 9:58:26 PM
I understand people may have addictions to gaming along with the many other addiction in the world. And maybe your are at a point in your marriage or relationship where intimacy isn't the center fold of the relationship, but I wouldn't let gaming affect my life. Whether it be my social, work, or personal life. Addictions come in many forms, and I for one understand the psychological and/or emotional part of these addictions, and if that's a case, maybe the need to see someone about these addictions. As for those who pass up on sex with a person you care about, or any social interaction outside the 4 walls, then I would say you need to wake up, gaming isn't the world, it's fantasy, which undoubtedly is a key reason to the addiction.
But I'm not and expert on the subject, just thought I'd give my 2 cents.
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