You Won't Find Girl Gamers Because They're Hiding
Girl gamers do exist. I wrote an editorial some time ago entitled, Is The Girl Gamer A Myth? and after the massive influx of e-mails in my inbox disabusing me of such an absurd motion, I was forced to issue a follow-up article citing many of the responses.
However, at the time, I noticed a recurring theme in those responses and ever since, that theme has become more obvious. Girl gamers are out there and many of them are probably playing online with you...but you might not ever know it. Why? Because the maturity level of too many gamers is below that of an infant. Has anyone been in PlayStation Home if someone is wandering around with a female avatar? How many times did I hear a girl gamer say they play shooters all the time, but never with a microphone, because it would become an unbearable experience? Some of those gals are just plain unapologetic; they're out there, and they're gonna kick your ass if you've got a problem with it.
But most, I've found, aren't like that at all. Whether it's because older gamers can scarcely believe any normal female would play video games, or because the younger crowd hurl insults while hiding behind the veil of anonymity, many females who indulge in the hobby prefer to stay out of sight (and out of ear). Some don't even like the idea of going into GameStop; if the girl is even remotely attractive, they're creeped out in minutes if a certain clientele happens to be in the store. Things aren't any better in online communities; that veil of anonymity once again causes all sorts of problems, and again, I've heard of many a girl gamer hiding their gender when posting in game forums. This is not a good sign. Immaturity and video games have been linked together for a very long time - a common stereotype - and this really isn't helping.
Oh, they're out there, all right. But you'll probably never see one, because she's either disgusted or freaked out whenever that fact becomes public knowledge. So maybe the best indicator of an audience that is finally grown up arrives when girls don't have to tolerate our adolescent bullsh**. Wonder when that will be?
Tags: video games, game industry, girl gamers, gamer girls
12/3/2010 9:14:13 PM Ben Dutka
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Comments (103 posts)
sonic1899
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 12:01:51 AM
Nynja
Monday, December 06, 2010 @ 2:03:25 PM
One way to fix the bull$#!+ online is to provide the person's Phone Number, Home Address, and Hair Color next to their online account.
If they lost the 'safety' of being anonymous, I'm sure they'll quit the bull$#!+.
Gordo
Friday, December 03, 2010 @ 10:19:13 PM
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I think that is a bit like being a female gamer (especially online).
Sometimes better to keep your head down otherwise before you know it you will be battered and bruised and covered in tadpoles.
PAKINIPS
Friday, December 03, 2010 @ 10:51:51 PM
DeusExMachina
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 2:51:01 PM
NiteKrawler
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 3:53:00 PM
BattleFox21
Friday, December 03, 2010 @ 10:19:32 PM
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WorldEndsWithMe
Friday, December 03, 2010 @ 10:31:07 PM
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Lawless SXE
Friday, December 03, 2010 @ 10:42:29 PM
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Here's hoping one day, acceptance will become the norm.
Peace.
Highlander
Friday, December 03, 2010 @ 11:01:16 PM
Actually when I play in Home, I use a female avatar. Why you ask? Because the female avatars are a hell of a lot nicer to look at than the male ones. So I spent some time crafting as beautify an Avatar as I could. Now when I'm in home I turn off all the communication features, unless I am with a group of friends, but it's truly hilarious to watch the avatars of other gamers react to my avatar. I swear there must be 63 hard up guys in a Home space sometimes. It really is like moths to a flame. I don't punk them by flipping to a male avatar, there'd be no point. But it's hilarious to leave the controller for a minute or three and return to find her (my Avatar) surrounded by guys all trying desperately to get the attention of I'm not sure what.
So, if you are ever in Home and see a decent looking female avatar who looks not unlike she sprang forth from some JRPG, with a screen name that looks familiar, you'll know who it is.
sonic1899
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 12:05:49 AM
Fane1024
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 2:35:00 AM
The rude behavior has mostly petered out, though I still get friend requests from people before they've even said hello. Dude, at least chat me up first. ; P
Highlander, I tried sending a friend request to The Highlander a while back and the person said he didn't know PSXExtreme, so I guessed you used a different PSN ID. If you or any other regular wants to befriend me, please do.
Personally, I have no problem with losing to a woman. More power to them.
Last edited by Fane1024 on 12/4/2010 2:42:51 AM
leatherface
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 3:01:07 PM
Highlander
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 6:35:34 PM
leatherface
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 6:49:15 PM
Highlander
Friday, December 03, 2010 @ 11:01:51 PM
Qubex
Friday, December 03, 2010 @ 11:39:38 PM
Home I can understand, because her avatar would be female I guess. But most games... unless you can select a female character should be ok right?
Q!
"play.experience.enjoy"
Highlander
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 12:06:38 AM
Gamer Girl Gemo
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 4:58:30 AM
Highlander
Friday, December 03, 2010 @ 11:15:59 PM
Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 12:45:40 AM
Fane1024
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 2:47:01 AM
BikerSaint
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 11:56:23 PM
BikerSaint
Friday, December 03, 2010 @ 11:20:30 PM
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If I were to start playing online, I'd have no problem playing along with, or, against a female.
Just as long as she didn't throw it in my face every 2 seconds that she whupped my a$$, LOL
Last edited by BikerSaint on 12/3/2010 11:22:24 PM
Highlander
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 12:06:03 AM
Zorigo
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 12:38:20 PM
Highlander
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 6:38:05 PM
BikerSaint
Friday, December 03, 2010 @ 11:31:12 PM
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Highlander
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 12:42:25 AM
___________
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 1:12:02 AM
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LittleBigMidget
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 1:19:45 AM
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jcynavarro
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 2:03:16 AM
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Godslim
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 8:35:49 AM
Ultimate_Balla
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 2:07:55 AM
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SSRGohan
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 3:20:09 AM
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bloody_rootz
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 4:54:15 AM
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Gamer Girl Gemo
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 4:54:38 AM
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I've had many a kitchen comments, but they begin to take them back once the guys realize that girls are just as good as they are! However, I will say that the sheer number of guys that try to hook up with me on psn because I'm a girl playing mw2 greatly gets old. But, it's still funny to listen to a few of the guys cry when they realize I'm a girl on the number 1 spot :)
Overall, I'm proud to admit I'm a girl gamer and never back down from a challenge :)
Cesar_ser_4
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 5:46:14 AM
Highlander
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 6:43:57 PM
Considerng that you have commented here since at least August, you should already know that the only comments that are held for moderator approval are the ones containing links. If a message is incorrectly detected as containing a link, it will also be held, by the software. It's nothing to do with anything else.
Now I wonder though whether your comments out to be held for a moderator to inspect for facetious sarcasm?
Ergi
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 5:51:14 AM
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It's a shame that this stereotype is so strong, hope people realise (not just girls, hell everybody) that there are mature guy gamers out there.
BikerSaint
Sunday, December 05, 2010 @ 12:04:11 AM
sonic1899
Sunday, December 05, 2010 @ 8:01:07 PM
BikerSaint
Sunday, December 05, 2010 @ 10:39:58 PM
Clamedeus
Sunday, December 05, 2010 @ 11:07:43 PM
BikerSaint
Sunday, December 05, 2010 @ 11:45:42 PM
amzngskillz
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 9:00:13 AM
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wolfsinner
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 9:27:28 AM
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Highlander
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 6:45:23 PM
BikerSaint
Sunday, December 05, 2010 @ 12:26:52 AM
Just an FYI,
there's also a "Dr. Trash Talk" voice changing gizmo for the 360 in my Xbox gaming collection, so I expect they also would have a PS3 model too.
And I also own a GameDR "Smack Talk device in my collection too, that sits between the controller & the mic.
It has 5 prerecorded sounds & voices on it, with the ability to re-record anything you want, and using who ever's female voice too.
BTW, I'll never use either one of them, just wanted to add them into my gaming collections.
Last edited by BikerSaint on 12/5/2010 12:27:51 AM
GuyverLT
Sunday, December 05, 2010 @ 10:38:13 AM
Alienange
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 10:41:30 AM
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On a side note. Girls, if you want to stop being harassed online then stop emailing your picture to the people you meet!
MMKM
Wednesday, December 08, 2010 @ 5:08:07 PM
Underdog15
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 1:48:28 PM
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leatherface
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 1:49:34 PM
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BikerSaint
Sunday, December 05, 2010 @ 12:30:41 AM
DeusExMachina
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 2:46:06 PM
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Its not all our fault tho, some of them are just a bunch of bitches, they love games to bits, but they think of all guy gamers as immature assholes, then they go for their complete opposites, while never even bothering to get to kno us. It sux, all I want is a girlfriend I got something in common with (FFS, is that really so much to ask?) and the one true gamer girl I know is the latter type as I explained above (she only likes me as a friend, fuck! I hate that)
/end of rant
Highlander
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 6:49:30 PM
DeusExMachina
Sunday, December 05, 2010 @ 5:43:38 AM
swapnilgyani
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 3:31:09 PM
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1. We, the guy gamers, start behaving maturely, and encourage the same in our fellow guy gamers as much as we can.
2. More and more female gamers come out of the hiding to break the stereotype. Once girl gamers become commonplace, guys will not behave as ridiculously as they do today.
However, any platform that brings together both sexes will ALWAYS encourage some amount of flirting, but that's not necessarily a bad thing.
Both these points are dependent on each other and complement each other - its a vicious circle.
tes37
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 3:49:07 PM
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She told me yesterday that she was having a conversation with one of her co-workers about GT5 and how she wanted to try out my set up. Her co-worker, who is also a female, said that she and her husband have the game and play often. A male customer walked in on the conversation and instead of joining in, he interrupted it by not being able to get over the fact that they were female.
I think if males want to see more females on the scene, they need to accept them as gamers first. As gamers we claim to hate stereotyping, but some males in gaming are guilty of it when it comes to gender.
Last edited by tes37 on 12/4/2010 3:50:40 PM
PharaohJR
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 6:48:01 PM
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i find females all the time that like to play video games.... wheter they 1st play them with me or they been doing it. its a great benefit normally after kooling with them u want to sit back light up or drink a couple beers then turn ya system on then ya lady talks bout playing it puts a smile on my face.
i was surprised on the day i bought GT5 cause i stay in Brooklyn NY bestduy aka do or die, the amount of females i seen in gamestop was surprising & they looked good. aint nothing like koolin wit ya lady & she enjoys doing what u like thats trill. i hope i find a asian & indonesian female that enjoy playin games before i die (jus wanna have females from all over i dont discriminate or hate any ethnicity color or race).
jus know the VGG are out here & easy to find.
Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Saturday, December 04, 2010 @ 7:49:34 PM
AnonWTF
Sunday, December 05, 2010 @ 3:16:48 AM
Highlander
Sunday, December 05, 2010 @ 2:43:32 PM
regular14
Sunday, December 05, 2010 @ 12:45:15 AM
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BikerSaint
Sunday, December 05, 2010 @ 2:58:45 AM
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PS3_Mom
Sunday, December 05, 2010 @ 2:03:09 PM
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Clamedeus
Sunday, December 05, 2010 @ 2:42:44 PM
Best Buy is just like that as well. I was asking one of the people who worked at the game section do you have the Tritton AX 720's, she replied "I have no idea what that is" But it's everyone i run into nowadays that don't know, and I'm wondering why they are even in that department.
Underdog15
Sunday, December 05, 2010 @ 3:34:51 PM
Makes sense to a certain extent, I guess, but I also try to avoid EBgames now. (Not just for that reason, but it is one)
Clamedeus
Sunday, December 05, 2010 @ 5:32:05 PM
sonic1899
Sunday, December 05, 2010 @ 7:55:08 PM
BikerSaint
Sunday, December 05, 2010 @ 10:48:34 PM
smzdt76
Sunday, December 05, 2010 @ 4:52:05 PM
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acer1957
Monday, December 06, 2010 @ 12:59:45 PM
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poisonedsodapop
Tuesday, December 07, 2010 @ 3:14:46 AM
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I've also met some girls on shooters so you know, it's not too uncommon.
Last edited by poisonedsodapop on 12/7/2010 3:16:44 AM
MMKM
Tuesday, December 07, 2010 @ 10:59:22 PM
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I have zero interest in playing online because of the rampant immaturity I've seen. I got burnt too many times in the early days of Battle.Net, and it's just gone downhill from there. I can't play FPS because of motion sickness, but I often play wingman for my husband. We're both turned off by the players we keep running into online, so we play offline more often than not. Like smzdt76, the ones we don't have platinums for are the games with multiplayer.

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