Is Online Multiplayer Too Immature For Older Gamers?
I wouldn't play online much if it weren't for my job. However, sometimes I wonder why.
Although I still prefer a single-player adventure to any online multiplayer experience, I've had plenty of fun playing online with others. There have been plenty of games that are absolutely unbelievable online, and I keep thinking I'd return to those games if it weren't for an embarrassing trait:
The immaturity of online players. I've written about this before, but I keep thinking it'll get better. It actually doesn't seem to get any better; if anything, it keeps getting worse. It's not necessarily a matter of name-calling or flat-out racism and sexism, it just seems as if younger and younger players are playing online. Now, maybe younger gamers seem more immature with each passing day because I'm getting older, or they're actually less mature than my friends and I were at that age. That doesn't sound right, though.
Then again, it could be the lure of anonymity combined with the fact that parents aren't being parents, and a ton of 9-year-olds are playing Call of Duty. I do hear higher-pitched male voices in great abundance when playing online and I've resorted to simply muting everyone. I just can't listen to the rampant stupidity anymore. At first, it's amusing. Then it gets annoying. Finally, it ends up being depressing and downright embarrassing. If any anti-game activist wanted extra ammunition, all they needed to do is record the audio from a particularly nasty online session, and we'd be set back decades.
In that way, it almost seems as if we're regressing. It seems as if mature, older gamers don't play online as often as younger gamers, and I think I know why. I just can't understand why things keep going downhill in terms of online behavior.
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10/9/2011 9:29:02 PM Ben Dutka
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AcHiLLiA
Sunday, October 09, 2011 @ 11:14:42 PM
WorldEndsWithMe
Sunday, October 09, 2011 @ 9:58:40 PM
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AcHiLLiA
Sunday, October 09, 2011 @ 11:10:42 PM
Beamboom
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 1:24:13 AM
supercham
Sunday, October 09, 2011 @ 10:05:30 PM
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Gone
Sunday, October 09, 2011 @ 10:14:20 PM
swapnilgyani
Sunday, October 09, 2011 @ 10:40:49 PM
maxpontiac
Sunday, October 09, 2011 @ 10:35:14 PM
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Killa Tequilla
Sunday, October 09, 2011 @ 11:54:25 PM
Beamboom
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 1:26:26 AM
maxpontiac
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 10:24:44 AM
Killa - I can't win running around like a mad man. I have to move from cover to cover, pick my shots when they are kills, and use surprise as my ally. If you are like me, try that next time out. You might be surprised.
Beamboom
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 12:38:55 PM
Coffeya
Sunday, October 09, 2011 @ 10:35:28 PM
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My voice stopped getting deeper after middle school (20 years old now). If you here any little squeals of joy then it is definitely me. lol just kidding, but seriously...
Nice choice of words for the 4th paragraphs last sentence. Anyways, you not only see this in video games Ben. But internet in GENERAL! Anywhere you go. So don't let online multiplayer take the blame.
When it comes to different generations I feel the older ones are always going to feel the younger ones where less immature than theirs. It seems like a cycle. I also think the fact that the internet is still a young technology itself which started with the 90's generation and not that much older people are going to get into it to mature things up. Your only going to get younger and younger ones until those ducklings get older. So I think you have at least a 10 year to 20 wait for it finally to become bearable for you.
Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Sunday, October 09, 2011 @ 11:01:47 PM
Highlander
Sunday, October 09, 2011 @ 11:13:15 PM
Killa Tequilla
Sunday, October 09, 2011 @ 11:56:35 PM
Underdog15
Tuesday, October 11, 2011 @ 8:42:09 AM
Note... I said 360 versions. So you know those kids also own mics.
swapnilgyani
Sunday, October 09, 2011 @ 10:36:14 PM
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We have discussed the 'why are they so rude' question before over here - lack of any substantial parenting, the desire for instant gratification, and so on.
How do we fix that? Well, there really isn't an instant fix for this. Try being a great parent yourself, to ensure that there will still be sane online gamers in future generations!
There are a few things that could help reduce the stress in the short term though:
Firstly, the multiplayer component of games should be made so it requires more skill than just lightening reflexes. The amount of obscenity I've heard / read on games like LittleBigPlanet, Gran Turismo, Demon's Souls or even Assassin's Creed is far less than the Killzone, Call of Duty and Uncharted.
Secondly, every game should allow me to create a permanent lobby with moderator rights, where I can boot anybody's ass out of it whenever I see fit. Overtime, players will recognize the decent lobbies to play in.
Thirdly, I'm just wondering if online games really need the chat feature? What value does it bring to the gameplay? I can understand the value it brings to a game like MAG, but not all games require verbal commands, do they? It is a much better experience when you put everybody on mute, isn't it? So...why have that feature in the first place?
AcHiLLiA
Sunday, October 09, 2011 @ 11:18:40 PM
BIGRED15
Sunday, October 09, 2011 @ 11:20:33 PM
Killa Tequilla
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 12:01:54 AM
You can mute anyone you want dude... I mean, look at Uncharted 3, all you need to do is go to your PSN, press X, and go to "Mute All". Having the chat function there does not hurt 1 bit. Not 1 bit. Plus, it adds to the expirience, you might not need it because whatever reason, but others do for whatever reason. My personal reason is because I only hit the online portion of the game if I am playing with a friend.
Highlander
Sunday, October 09, 2011 @ 11:11:14 PM
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"It seems as if mature, older gamers don't play online as often as younger gamers, and I think I know why. I just can't understand why things keep going downhill in terms of online behavior."
As the number of immature younger gamers grows and their shrill, high pitched voices grate on your ears with their inane and obscene chatter, you resort to muting everyone, eventually it's just not so much fun to play in silence, and you start playing online less. Imaging that happening across the entire gaming population. Every time an older, more mature gamer leaves the online population the concentration of immature ones increases. that simply drives mature gamers away even faster...and so on, and so forth. It can't not get worse, it's unavoidable.
Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Sunday, October 09, 2011 @ 11:27:34 PM
Excelsior1
Sunday, October 09, 2011 @ 11:21:15 PM
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ZettaiSeigi
Sunday, October 09, 2011 @ 11:54:40 PM
I don't play online a lot. FPS games are all the rage and I'm just not good at them, even if I have to partially blame my motion sickness for that. The only game I actually spent a considerable amount of time in playing online is Uncharted 2's co-op mode.
Speaking of Uncharted, anybody up for some co-op multiplayer in UC3 once it comes out? It would be fun to play UC3 with some folks from here. And I won't mind using my mic with you, too. I would have to finish the SP campaign first though.
Ben Dutka PSXE [Administrator]
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 12:33:48 AM
Excelsior1
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 12:43:35 AM
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Beamboom
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 6:21:01 AM
I too experienced very few with mic on kz3 but I did not play kz3 mp much at all to have any real opinion about it.
On the other side of the scale I have to put Burnout Paradise as the most social public game I've ever played on the ps3. And there I'd say at least 60-70% of the players - maybe even higher - used a mic. It really was the most common thing to do.
But do you still play Crysis 2 mp? Cause I wanna get back to that game, would be fun to meet other psxers there. Do I even have you on my psn friends list?
Last edited by Beamboom on 10/10/2011 6:32:30 AM
Excelsior1
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 7:44:52 AM
anyways, you bring up interesting points about the types of games and overall headset use. i still think the overall use of mics on psn is low however. fire up kz3 or crysis2 and i'd estimate no more than 10-20% are using a mic on average. the bf3 beta mic count is extremely low. no way is the statement that most people on psn use mics even remotely accurate. in fact it's almost the exact opposite from my experience.
ZettaiSeigi
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 7:49:32 AM
Excelsior1
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 8:32:46 AM
Excelsior1
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 8:47:06 AM
ZettaiSeigi
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 9:26:13 AM
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SoulController
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 9:34:31 AM
I thought we were psn friends. Do you have another account. Friend me @ Soulcontroller.
Zetta, you can get early access to the U3 mp from subway. It'll transfer your level & everything once the retail copy releases add me
I use to clown the pre teen crowd on COD4 for their high pitch voices & racist rants but quickly realized, I'm just stooping to their level. It's one of the main reasons ill never pick up another COD game ever
ZettaiSeigi
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 10:19:14 AM
slugga_status
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 10:19:46 AM
Excelsior1
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 10:53:51 AM
@slugga
i absolutely agree with that sentiment. i always go in with my mic on though hoping somebody else is out there. so many times there is nobody :(.
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Beamboom
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 12:18:52 PM
I'll add you when I'm on the ps3 next, Excel. I'm Beamboom on psn too.
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ZettaiSeigi
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 6:23:10 PM
Beamboom
Tuesday, October 11, 2011 @ 7:26:28 AM
Underdog15
Tuesday, October 11, 2011 @ 8:47:48 AM
Feel free to add me. I don't judge, am patient, and am smart enough to figure out what you are trying to say if you can't quite get the right word.
ZettaiSeigi
Tuesday, October 11, 2011 @ 11:21:53 PM
saini
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 12:45:01 AM
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Excelsior1
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 1:09:48 AM
Gabriel013
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 12:56:37 AM
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That got a bit tiring after a while.
My main reason for not gaming online is that I find it boring. it's pointless. Maybe something co-op related with a story would be good but an endless cycle of Spawn Shoot Kill Die just doesn't appeal to me.
I'm sure there are some who like to test their reaction times against other people but to me it's just an endless cycle of boring. Don't get me started on Perk unlocks either.
Beamboom
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 4:46:24 AM
That should be the perfect introduction to online gaming. Storyline coop, where the entire campaign is played in coop, is my by far favourite online gaming. I dare guarantee that you will enjoy it a lot if the two of you go along fine.
There are several games where the entire story can be played in coop. Amongst the better ones are Fear 3, Dead island, Borderlands, World At War, Resistance 3, Portal 2...
And, of course, the king of everything coop: Saints Row. The third is coming up this november.
Beamboom
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 1:52:59 AM
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To play with friends and to play with random strangers are two different worlds of playing. It's next to incomparable.
When I say "friends" I do not mean real life friends. I mean people you got to know while playing online. You may know very little about their location, age, profession, that stuff: It doesn't matter as long as they are good guys.
Burnout Paradise had a *perfect* online coop system. The host could open up one and one new slot for players to join, and kick players that did not fit the current group. After a short while you end up with a good group of 5-8 players who could play for hours straight and have a really, really good time.
So what I want to say to you all is: You have not really gotten to know online gaming until you've played a good game with a group of people you like. That is next to unbeatable. I *still* have fond memories of the fantastic Paradise sessions.
Axe99
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 3:22:00 PM
Kevin555
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 2:13:59 AM
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The only online gaming i do is with fighters such as VF5, DOA4, Tekken 6, SCIV etc mainly because i fight with mates that i know & we don't take it too seriously. If i win, great! Bragging rights bitch! If i lose, big whoop it's all fun.
Where as if i play against some dude i don't know online called "Darklord666" & win a fight i get called a juggle spammer & if i lose a game i get called a newbie scrub.
That's all very cute & adorable to start with but when it comes to a point where you can't enjoy your victory or even a close defeat in a fight than the pointless butthurt banter just kills the whole idea of having fun in an online game.
Clamedeus
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 4:27:46 AM
AcHiLLiA
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 11:05:25 AM
___________
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 3:07:15 AM
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i dont enjoy it though because of LAG, and also the inconsistancy of it.
the BF3 beta last night for some reason, ever since i started playing it i can empty a full clip into someone there fine then they fire 1 pistol bullet into me and im dead.
WTF!?
for example a enemy was crouching down arming a MCOM station, so i filled his back with 4 sniper shots.
then he gets up turns around and fires 1 pistol bullet into me and im dead.
WTF!?
im taking cover behind a door, a enemy comes sprinting in i fill his back with 2 shotgun shells hes fine.
he turns around shoots me once with his pistol and im dead.
again, WTF!?
yea, that pretty much explains why i dont play games online.
if i wanted to run around shooting rubber while everyone else is shooting bullets theres a great new shooting range open up down town.
;)
Highlander
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 3:20:14 AM
That's one of the inherent difficulties with real time control in online games. Lag. No matter how hard game makers work to avoid it, it's inherent in the technology. If you are playing against folks on another continent, or in another country, you have to add several router hops just because of that. Ever hop adds a little lag. Even within a larger country, like the US, there is plenty of potential for lag thanks to many, many ISPs and many, many additional hops. Lag sucks, but lag is going nowhere.
Clamedeus
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 4:24:43 AM
Beamboom
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 7:35:04 AM
But I remember back in the days of playing Quake multiplayer on the 28.8 modem. That was a seriously thick coating of lag: Players appearing out of nowhere, I got shot by persons I did not even see, people seemingly stuck on an "eternal running loop" facing a wall for long periods before disappearing and popping up on the other side of the map.
*That* was lag alright. What you experience today is *nothing*, kids. ;)
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___________
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 9:56:01 AM
i coincidentally turned SLI off today, loaded up the beta and it ran at a silky smooth 60FPS!
every other game though, well thats a different story.
oh no, try playing the BF3 beta @ 5FPS!
now thats LAG!
;)
i always try play on servers closest to me but thats not always possible.
one thing i hope DICE fix by retail release is exactly that, the ping meter.
for some reason it was not displayed in the beta.
hopefully they fix the SLI profile problems too.
funny, the beta driver was released just for BF3 and nvidia still f*cked it up!
no wonder their full releases have more holes then swiss cheese after jerry the mouse has gotten to it!
Lotusflow3r
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 11:42:23 AM
BikerSaint
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 3:46:38 AM
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BikerSaint
Tuesday, October 11, 2011 @ 12:44:03 AM
I'm about to reach 59 in another 20 days or so and I've already heard a few a**hole with a whole lot of immaturity, racism, vulgarisms, & just plain trash talking, of all ages, both younger & older.
And up to now I haven't MP'ed much, just basically a whole lot of hours in KZ3 so far getting my MP n00bie feet wet, so I can't really vouch for all the other games.
But 98% of the time that I've been in KZ3 MP, the gamers were all about the game & not about the smack-talk.
But from what I've seen and heard so far, I think the biggest cause of the problems in MP mode are for the most part because of the parent's.
Either they have a severe lack of parenting skills, or they just don't care enough, and only use the console as their very own personal super-nanny.
And we know that most of those parents have put the console in their child's bedroom in order not to disturb their parent's own activities or moments of solitude. And almost all have 360's due to the cheapness of them. And they all come with FREE headsets.
So, what happens after they've put that kid, & a console, & a free mic, all together in his very own bedroom with the door closed, completely unsupervised.....BINGO!
Last week when I was in gamestop, a mom was buying her 7 or 8 year old, COD Black Ops.
I asked her, you DO know that's rated mature & unsuitable for kids that young?
Her reply was, Oh, that's OK, I'll be jhome while he's playing.
My last reply back... Regardless, the storyline is not for young kids.....and Yeah right, like you REALLY ARE going to stand behind him the whole time & constantly monitor his playtime.
Yeah, I could see another 360 Super-Nannie thanks to another human shell who's lacking in the basic parental department.
Last edited by BikerSaint on 10/11/2011 12:45:00 AM
Underdog15
Tuesday, October 11, 2011 @ 8:51:26 AM
An older guy, probably in 20's, was cursing and swearing and everything in between at me and my friends. I would have muted him, but I couldn't resist.
I went on a short verbal rant telling him it's time to get a real job. I said that I know his father was probably abusive or his mother was likely emotionally unavailable or both, but that's no reason to take his frustration for dropping out of high school out on us. Then I asked him, "What's the matter... still haven't gotten around to getting your GED and off of welfare?"
His response... was .... delayed... then he said... "Shut the **** up!"
Oh we laughed and laughed......
Wow... I'm kind of a jerk....
Ultimadream
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 5:20:41 AM
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My flatmate who plays CoD is serious about it and he always whines when he is on the losing team "MY KILL TO DAETH RATIO!" I just sit beside him and giggle because If I worried about that on my games I would have had a stroke.
But I can accept gamers just wanting to have fun. going out of their way to insult people though is wrong. The ammount of vulgar language heard upon headsets is quite concerning. My friend is doing his dissertation on modern culture and is writing about how he thinks under 18's access to online gaming/communication is far more hazardous to young'uns than playing an 18+ game like GTA and from what I have seen online, I agree with him.
NoSmokingBandit
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 6:54:23 AM
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The only game i actually played online seriously was KZ2, and thats because it was incredible.
Palmetto
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 7:45:32 AM
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Beamboom
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 1:08:27 PM
slugga_status
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 8:25:56 AM
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Trash talking is ok with me..It just gets ridiculous when the racism begins. Now the kids don't do this, it's mainly the older gamers. Too many games I've played where I get called a n****r before the match starts..too many times it's happened after me and my friends win..It's just ridiculous, I'd be the only African American out my friends but people are so ignorant they call us all n****rs..
It's not the kids..it's the immature adults who need to get their heads out their a$$. Bottom line, I'm not going to let anybody ruin my gaming for me.
maxpontiac
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 10:26:50 AM
slugga_status
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 11:03:54 AM
Lotusflow3r
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 9:15:13 AM
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If i do want to communicate, an online RPG ala WKC is the way for me. Or a co-op game with someone i know.
You won't catch me talking to a bunch of strangers on a FPS....unless it's an old school romp like the brilliant Duke Nukem Forever multiplayer, then i can pretend it's the 90s again.
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cali2583
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 10:08:13 AM
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BikerSaint
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 10:57:13 PM
saini
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 2:08:09 PM
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Snorge
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 4:01:23 PM
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PSN: Snorge
XBL: Snorge
PS3 Preferred games: Killzone 3, Resistance 3, LittleBigPlanet 2, Uncharted 2/3 beta, MAG, Red Dead Redemption, and Metal Gear Online
360 Preferred games: Halo Reach & Gears of War 3
*Sorry, not much of a COD fan*
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Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 5:20:26 PM
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Douchebaguette
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 6:12:30 PM
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I for one am not too old and I find games like Shogun 2: Total War a pretty interesting break from all the usual hectic online Beat 'em Ups and Shooters. Though even with games like Total War, you'll still find it's own variation of spam =[.
sha4dowknight05
Monday, October 10, 2011 @ 7:32:05 PM
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Confessed4Life
Thursday, October 13, 2011 @ 11:30:06 AM
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Cravit8
Thursday, October 13, 2011 @ 3:26:03 PM
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What about the idea of some sort of incentive attached to a simple rating system.
If I were to list specifics, you all would probably think it was impractical, but I firmly believe the end result COULD be that older/mature players were matched up with the like more.
It would be nice if there was a way to rate players like this:
1) Always preferred/never match with again
2) good tactics / good twitch-shooter
3) mature / immature.
Lets say at the end (or the menu screen during) a match you could rate every single player. The obvious long-term incentive would be to the mature/older players who know after a few hundred ratings, they will be matched more with those they liked.
They could also implement a incentive program, but I'm not sure how PSN could do this since they don't have a point system like xbox live.
MrAnonymity
Thursday, October 13, 2011 @ 10:02:54 PM
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ImaginaryTurtle
Thursday, October 13, 2011 @ 10:14:50 PM
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Darkus
Friday, October 14, 2011 @ 12:09:29 PM
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I think it is mostly young gamers but unfortunately not all. i have also been abused by adults (i think)that believe as i am white british, i must be christian as thats what the insults consist of. I suppose it shows that racism can be both ways.
Like Ben, i think parents have some responsibility. i have put in a previous thread that my 9 yr old son comes up moody because all his mates have COD Black Ops and he has not. whats wrong with parents? is it a generation that thinks games means children? surely the certificate on the box gives them a clue? (assuming they can read!).
I have to admit that i can swear online but its usually either at myself or because of the blinking LAG!
Darkus
Friday, October 14, 2011 @ 12:09:30 PM
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I think it is mostly young gamers but unfortunately not all. i have also been abused by adults (i think)that believe as i am white british, i must be christian as thats what the insults consist of. I suppose it shows that racism can be both ways.
Like Ben, i think parents have some responsibility. i have put in a previous thread that my 9 yr old son comes up moody because all his mates have COD Black Ops and he has not. whats wrong with parents? is it a generation that thinks games means children? surely the certificate on the box gives them a clue? (assuming they can read!).
I have to admit that i can swear online but its usually either at myself or because of the blinking LAG!
P_Phatz
Friday, October 14, 2011 @ 11:01:46 PM
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360 username: P Phatz. "Yes that's a space"
Do have a mic, and mature with occasional outbursts of cursings.
Game of choice BFBC2 and BF3 when it gets here. have all the other main stream games but prefer war and tactics over all else. And some zombie slaying every now and then in dead island now that it's fixed.
First post ever here but somewhat long time reader of comments on pxe
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